please help me, my fiancee got angry at me cuz i was late comming home. he was drunk and he started yelling at me and started beatibg me with the rolling pin, im fine now, the dr's asked what happened and i toldthem i had fallin down the stirs. i'm really scared and he doesnt know that i'm pregnant(i found out last week and i just dont know how to tell him) he's never yelled at me and has never hit me untill now and i really really love him, but i dont know what i should do. i'm really scared cuz friday is usually his drinking night and i dont know if hes gonna be mad at me for what ever reason. before he didnt drink he was so good to me never yelled never said bad things to me never hit me but now when he sees me crying cuz i'm scared he says "oh mami i'm sorry u no i luv u girl" or "mami im sorry i dont mean it and i'll stop hurting you" i know he is a really great guy and i no he does love me but i dont know how to deal with the beating, (hes hit me more than 1 time) wat shold i do
2007-01-05 13:07:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my family doesnt believe me about him they say"oh you just are over reacting" do u think once i get married to him things will change?
2007-01-05 13:07:54 · update #1
when i ask him why he does this to me he says"ay chica,if u act like a child u will be treated like a child and will be put back in your place"
2007-01-05 13:08:15 · update #2
i was late home cuz my friend just had a baby and wanted me to stay a little longer with her untill her husband got back to the hospital and i was there till about 1 and got home around 1:30
2007-01-05 13:08:55 · update #3
i've tried to leave him but i am too weak, i really need help and i know it, he is good to me infront of my family,his family, my friends, his friends and when we are just in front of people, but then when we get home, WHOA he changes just like that
2007-01-05 13:24:38 · update #4
Get out of this relationship, NOW!!! Its only gonna get worse. If his attitude is "Ay, if you act like a child you will be treated like one" then hes always gonna use that excuse to hurt you. Get up, go to a battered womens shelter, and call the police so you can press charges on him. A person like him does not deserve to walk free on the streets!!! Leave or the next time he beats you, you may not be so lucky to get out alive. If that doesnt motivate you, think about your unborn child. Would you want him/her to grow up in an abusive household??
2007-01-05 13:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to shelter for battered women. It will not get better and if you are pregnant, it will get worse faster. A man is NOT a man if he hits a woman. Violence is not acceptable in a relationship! Honey, no one....no one is worth it! I promise.
Your family is in denial or for some reason you being with him serves some purpose for them. Do any of the men in your family abuse?
GET AWAY AND GET AWAY FAST. DON'T TELL HIM YOU ARE LEAVING. A MAN THAT IS DRUNK AND VIOLENT IS UNPREDICTABLE. EVERY MINUTE A WOMAN IS KILLED BY THE MAN THAT IS SUPPOSED TO LOVE THEM. GET OUT.
2007-01-05 21:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible, he has no right to hit you! And I can't believe he told you that (you act like a child-you'll be treated like one) If he did it once, believe me he'll do it again. I don't think he loves you and I don't think he's a great guy. People never hit the ones they love and great guys don't act like jerks! I'd leave him and never marry him!
Your child deserves much, much beter family environment and real dad!
2007-01-05 21:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by baby2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i work in a battered womens shelter in canada and im sorry to say you NEED to Leave!!!! he will get worse and I know you love him and it will be hard but he will keep beating u unless he gets professional help and if he can even admit he has a problem. if you dont leave he may hurt you and worse kill the baby since it is vulnerable in that stomach of yours. please leave him until he gets help. ill be looking at you r question if you ask another ill anser it
2007-01-05 21:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just sad. Your fiance' is a turd. And the beatings will get worse. Get out now and save yourself along with your baby. And absolutely get the police involved!
2007-01-05 21:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hru.
If u really love him then u give one more chance and wait for some time.because all relations has some positive or negative part.so keep to trying to avoid the negative part.and if he reallly love he come back in ur life.and i wish every thing is going as previous in ur life.
Thanks.
I Wish u for ur happy life.
2007-01-05 21:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Akki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's best for you and your unborn child to leave. you gotta think about that baby and if he's acting like that now you know that it's only gonna get worse. get out of that relationship and get out now. i'm sorry but your family sound like idiots.
2007-01-05 21:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by maria92588 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you need to get out of this situation.not just for you but for your baby. if you don't have someone you can stay with get help from a local women's shelter. i know from experience that it can be REALLY hard to leave someone, but it will only get worse if you don't.
2007-01-05 21:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse only gets worse...get out now for the sake of yourself and your baby. He's NOT a "great guy" or he would not be treating you this way EVER!
2007-01-05 21:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny you need to go to the cops and run. save your life and your childs. the earlier the better. once married itll only get worse. GO NOW. go straight to the cops.
2007-01-05 21:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by divinemadness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋