Okay my son is seventeen and lived with his grandmother but she let him move in with his 21 yr old friend whos a guy and is studying to become a socail worker.
She has his custodety and my daughters because my husband was abusing my son and I didnt know he never told me when I was in the courtroom I thought that he was lying, so I screamed at him the whole time.
Now I'm married again to his father's brother and he really cares but my son won't come live with us because he said he's tired of me calling him names (I only called him a slut once, -.-), but hes scared of my husband because my husband locked him in the closet when he told my uncle he had to do his homework.
Do you think I can get him back? I really think so, my other husband didn't hit him that hard, they only left brusies because my son allowed it to happen.
2007-01-05 13:04:38 · 13 answers · asked by 4g3t1t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
by let it happen I mean that he didn't tell me and I couldnt have stopped it so...
2007-01-05 13:06:13 · update #1
I 4got to tell you that I may have seen my husband hit him once or twice but thats not abuse!
2007-01-05 13:12:09 · update #2
ANYtime anyone hits a child other than for punishment through a spanking, that is abuse. Period. Like someone else said, you don't deserve custody. And what do you mean your other husband didn't hit him 'that' hard. Are you a joke? This a human being you're talking about. Why don't you just let someone hit you a couple times not 'that' hard. See if you like it. No, I pray to God you don't get custody of your son or any child ever.
2007-01-05 15:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Britt 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? If I ever saw my husband hit my kids "just because" I would kill him. My kids are my life. I don't understand why you didn't know it was happening. And to scream at your son and say he is a liar..... I wouldn't want to live with you either. He is 17, let him go. And for you personally, grow up. Look at it from your kids point of view, if mom didn't believe me then and something happens to me now, she won't believe me. You need to get counseling before you even think about getting your children back.
2007-01-05 13:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you think abuse is? You need to seek some counseling that is for sure. It is a parents duty to make sure that no harm somes to your children. That you couldnt have done anything is ridiculous. You can always do something. How did your son allow it to happen? the bruises happened cause he wished them to appear? Lady seek professional help. There is obviously a reason that the court sttem dec
2007-01-05 13:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by gem753 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well in this day and age anything can happen but If your son is 17 almost 18 then no you have no chance of custody since he is almost an adult. I dont think you stand a chance of gettin custody of any child esp since you married a man who put your child in a locked closet. And if by some dang fool way you did get them I sure hope CPS keeps an eye on you.
2007-01-05 13:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to bring any child into your current living situation......#1 ..you let him be abused. # 2 you are now married to your sons fathers brother.. #3 your parenting skills have resorted to namecalling. all your son knows from your family is mistreatment ..........this sounds like a very messed up household... and if u try to pursue him it will only drive him away even further.....let him be.....he also has the choice to legally emancipate himself if u do end up getting custody anyway.....so it probably wouldnt even be worth it. He will just legally leave if he doesnt want to be there......dont make excuses for your ex husband any bruise is abuse
2007-01-05 13:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Can you say Dysfunctional?
Wow. Why even request custody. The kid is 17, basically an adult. You lost the ability to guide him in life a while ago. Now you are going to have to step back and let him live his life. Do your best to be there for him, but if he is happy in his current situation, tearing him away from that is going to make it worse.
2007-01-05 13:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's 17, even if you got custody he could file for a "divorce" from you. And if you didn't notice bruises on your child then you weren't a very attentive mother. I know where every scrape on my boys comes from. If they fall and scrape a knee or bump their head I know it. So your son shouldn't have had to tell you. And any kind of hitting is abuse.
2007-01-05 13:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 4 Sweethearts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is 17 you do not deserve your son back. You allowed him to be abused.,you need to get therapy and learn about child abuse.
2007-01-05 13:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tantrix 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
like i said before you need to leave your husband in order to get your son back and to even have a relationship with him......woh the hell locks someone in the closet ?
2007-01-05 13:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just love stupid questions. I get points just to point out how idiotic your story is. Did you just want to get people angry??? Honestly you probably have no children and it's probably past your bed time. Now go to bed and let the adults play....
2007-01-05 14:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by ccdispatch911 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋