I'm currently living with my boyfriend of 7 years (fiance of 3 yrs) who happens to be a wonderful father and provider but i feel so bad because he may not be the father of our child. This thugged out guy who i've been sleeping with for a little over 2 years may be i'd been trying to cut ties with him around the time i got pregnant but it was too late and now i don't know what to do because he wants to be in my daughters life but i won't allow him to because of his life style and on top of this he let my boyfriend know what was going on which made me even more angry at him because i felt like it was my place to let him know not his. Am i wrong for this? What should i do, my boyfriend doesn't want a blood test he feels that my daughter is his and he's too attached to find out what may be the truth but i don't think this other guy is going to give up.
2007-01-05 12:57:50 · 9 answers · asked by Tina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should scrub the thug. Your fiance obviously loves you and supports you. You shouldn't have hurt him the way you did, but that is in the past. The only thing to do now is to allow him the respect to raise your daughter as if she is his. Also, you need to make sure you do not cheat on him anymore so you don't get yourself in this situation again.
2007-01-05 13:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by FutureMrsMarsalia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you've gotten yourself into a big mess, as if you hadn't guessed. At this point, since there is a child involved, this "thug" could bring his case to court and have it ordered for you to provide a paternity test. In order to find out who the father of your daughter is, I would suggest getting a paternity test done without a court order. That way you can decide what to do once the test comes back. Honesty is difficult and sometimes changes your life completely, but it's also necessary. I am not even going to touch on the fact that you violated the trust of your relationship by lying to and cheating on your man.
It's not a question of the other man "giving up" but rather the fact that he has a right to know if your daughter is his.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 13:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to cut ties completely with the thug. Why? You have a daughter's welfare to think of. Your fiance is willing and able to care for her and you. Are you going to throw that away for a fling with a guy who is a real loser?
Since your fiance already knows it's a possiblity the girl isn't his, and he loves her enough to overlook it, then YOU need to move on too. Marry your fiance and never talk to the other guy again. He has no parental rights and can't force the issue if your fiance won't have a blood test.
2007-01-05 13:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok gurl im gona be honest with u it was deff wrong to be with 2 guys at once. did u say ur fiancee knew about the other guy? i would say stay away from the thug even if u are attracted to those kind of guys they dotn bring ne thing btu trouble(trust me i kno) if u love ur fiancee stay with him be faithful to him how old is ur daughter? dotn let her life be full of confusion. as for the blood test. honestly i dotn think u need one i think that if ur fiancee has been helpin ur raise her then he is more of a father than the thug and i also think he(fiancee) shoudl be the one raising her with u by the way i read this i think ur child will have a better life if u stay with ur man and drop the thug
2007-01-05 13:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by dancerbabe32506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're wrong for sleeping with some other guy after being engaged to someone else....engagement usually means you're in love with the person.....otherwise...you'd just be dating.....or have a relationship like you and thug....and i am surprised at your boyfriend.....if he knows that someone else could be the father of your child........WHY is he still with you....i think instead of just worrying about blood testing and thug man wanting to be in ur babies life...u should be worried about what your relationship with your fiancee is based on.....if he can't let u go after knowing you sleep with another guy....and u can't admit that the baby may not be his...your relationship is finished...kaput...not worth anything
2007-01-05 13:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Charishma S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve your fiance. You're too messed up to recognize a good thing and not destroy it. This is classic trauma survivor behavior, very chaotic. Please speak to a profesional soon before you pass this on to your own kids. Yes you're wrong. Why are you marrying someone who you care so littl efor that you would cheat on him and be so irresponsible as to get pregnant by the other guy.
2007-01-05 13:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel Green 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, here's my question...why have you been engaged for 3 years?
2007-01-05 13:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't play with fire if you aren't ready to get burned
2007-01-05 13:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters suck! you really are a piece of crap.
2007-01-05 13:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋