My wife and I were invited to a dinner party that was given by our new neighbors. It was a get to know you party so we thought it would be fun. When the hostess asked everyone to come to the table my wife noticed that the table cloth was really a bedsheet. As dishes were being picked up and passed around we both noticed stains on the sheet. I cant say what kind of stains these were but it turned our stomachs and we really didnt want to eat. My wife nudged me and whispered that she wanted to leave. I didnt know what to do so I didnt do anything. We stayed, ate and went home and my wife threw up. If you had been me what would you have done?
2007-01-05 12:50:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Are you joking? That's nauseating, and in that case I'd be much less concerned about manners than my personal health. I would have promptly left.
2007-01-05 12:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, lighten up. What is a pattern but stains on a sheet. Do you have any table cloths that have stains?
You were there to meet and get to know your neighbors. People have their own lives, priorities and problems. Try and understand their choices. Maybe they cannot afford to replace clean cloths that have stains. Maybe they chose not to notice it, because the next clean set is likely to get dropped spaghetti sauce by the kids also. I know several families whose homes look a whole lot different now that they have kids than when it was just their house.
Many big city neighborhoods are not neighborhoods because people cannot be bothered to socialize with their neighbors. Too busy, too different from each other. Our culture is what gets hurt. We mingle with only those like us. The fashionable table cloth croud. Where are we when there is an emergency? Are you not going to pool together with that neighbor and BBQ when there is a power failure that lasts a couple days?
You did the right thing. I would have refrained from putting my bread roll on the table.
2007-01-05 13:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by MarkW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have confronted the people about it. There could have been a logical explanation for it. Don't judge a book by it's cover, always open it and find out what it's about. If there was a logical explanation, your wife would not have puked. These situations are tough but asking is always the best.
2007-01-05 13:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget to mail the invitation or forget to make the telephone call to ask the guy. If that may no longer something you experience you're able to do, while the guy starts off to ***** approximately something, spoil interior the criticism and alter the priority. undesirable manners? sure, yet sensible. possibly this could instruct that individual to close up each and all of the lawsuits. yet another element you're able to do is that if the guy complains approximately your place being too chilly, tell him he could have the social gathering at his domicile next time and then it's going to be the final temperature. regardless of each and everything the tries to make this individual satisfied, furnish to get his issues put in the motor vehicle and teach him the door.
2016-11-26 22:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by bustamante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it would have bothered me. I've been to worse dinner parties. But, as suggested by another poster, the best thing for you to do would have been to feign illness and leave with dignity and appropriate apologies.
Look at the bright side, you'll now have an hilarious story to tell at your dinner parties.
2007-01-05 13:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was too much to take, you should've politely excused yourselves stating one of you isn't feeling very well, thanked them for their hospitality and left.
At a later date you and your neighbors could've enjoyed a cup of coffee together -- maybe at your home.
Sometimes, it's hard to come up with something when you're in the spur of the moment. I always come up with a quick comeback after the argument or confrontation is over. Darn.
2007-01-05 13:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Christy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont freak out...lots of people use bed sheets as tablecloths...because sometimes you can find a pretty pattern that you want ...lets just hope that it was a food stain and not anything else...( even if you just tell your wife that to feel better)
2007-01-05 12:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by witchywoman_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its all in your mind... if you think your neighbors are trying to get along with the neighbors around them give them a try... everybody does shitty things all the time so just let go of the idea and think that inspite of those things they still want to end up friends with you guys...
2007-01-05 13:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by eloi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be much more cautious about accepting invitations in your neighborhood.
2007-01-05 13:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
snob you dare to bring down the hospitality of your fellow man grow up did you tell the people why you left or is moral cowardice also your family motto .your what wrong the world to day,your sickening .
2007-01-05 13:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋