honestly. tell me why?
because i may know i am, people may say i am,
but i refuse to accept it until i have definite scientific evidence.
because anybody who says i am, have their own opinion as to why, and most times it sucks. its always 'well, i had sex at 13', so it makes u a loser for being a virgin at 28! but that's not even an answer. thats your perspective, thats what u did. how does that make me a loser? what is the real reason?
a solid logical answer. experience? that dont count either.
u can get experience anytime, its like driving. whenever u start to learn to drive, give or take a few years you're like everyone else on the road. so, u tell me why then. why is being a virgin at 28 make me a loser?! u freaking tell me why then cause im freaking dying to kno!!? u TELL ME WHY!!
2007-01-05 12:49:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since when does not having sex make you a loser? I sure can't think of why. Just because a person has had sex doesn't make them NOT a loser. In fact, most of the people I'd consider "losers" have had sex early and often and they're cheapened because of it.
If you listed on a piece of paper the reasons you are still a virgin, I'll bet most of them are because you value yourself and what sex really means more than "giving it up" to someone who doesn't value it. Your education, your family, your pride... having a wife rather than a cheap date, not wanting to get a disease, etc. Who cares about experience as a reason?
Somewhere there is a very special woman who has longed to give herself sexually only to the man she's married, and you will both experience that first time joy together. You'll learn and grow and find out those special thrills about each other, not needing to compare with what you'd experienced with someone else.
Waiting is really worth it. You're no loser, you're a prince.
2007-01-05 12:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
to clarify to the other users: he didn't have sex at 13, he's saying everyone else says that they did.
okay, well you are not in the minority...yeah people SAY they've all had sex and laugh at you, but that's because they're insecure. Of course some did have sex a little too early on, and those are the rare situations everyone talks about. Even though most people are still virgins by the age of 17, most people *think* that *everyone's* doing it.
I'll be honest: most people (by most I mean over 50%) have had sex by 28, but that doesn't make the 20-30% who haven't losers. I would consider those that "slept around" losers. I pity them. Alot of them have STD's and the men are paying child support to the kids they concived. Some of the women got pregnant and were either forced to abort the child (a procedure that can be physically harmful if anything goes wrong and usually causes a few years of depression) or bear a child and be forced to take care of him for his whole life.
So, no, you are not a loser. The reason people call you a loser is that they are insecure. They only feel good if they make others feel worthless. Believe me your time will come and you'll find the person that is right for you. When that happens kiss that virginity goodbye! cus you'll be f'ing her alot! until then keep you eyes open and try meeting girl's at work, bars, ask friends if they know anyone. [remeber there's more to life then sex]
don't worry, your time WILL come!!!!
2007-01-05 13:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The reason is that people look for reason why they are superior to others. At least that is one of many of my guesses. Another is that the belief of this idea acts as a means to further conform and group a series of people together to gain the advantage over others by making them not include, feeling inferior, and out numbered feeling out-casted. By further this they are refered to as losers, outcast, and any other name that comes to mind. The truth be told there is no definite answer why. I lost my virginity at age 24 out of curiosity alone. I am still an outcast, loser, geek, or what ever else I am refered too. I am what I am. And I live life by my accord not theres
2007-01-05 13:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by JoeDraco 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its all based on opinion and small-mindedness. sex is not and should not be everyones first priority. if you arent ready, comfortable or just havent found the right person, then thats ok. sex is an intimate thing and should only be between two people who you truly care about. dont worry about other people thinking your "loser-ish" just because you havent have sex yet. you will when your ready, and u should just blow off those who think otherwise. this may not be solid, logically correct statements, but i really dont think there are any. do what u feel is right and dont let anyone make u do something u dont want to for such a stupid reason. =]
2007-01-05 12:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bohemo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a great thing. I myself should have waited, it complicates relationships. I always believed it was a myth but found that out the hard way.
Being a virgin until marriage (assuming thats why you're waiting) isn't a bad thing. I respect your courage to be a virgin until marriage (or at least waiting for that right special someone).
good for you.
ps. i wouldn't make fun of someone for waiting...
2007-01-05 12:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by frankpaganini 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view your far away from loser if you're doing what you want to do and you know what you want. But the strange thing here is how could you abstain from sex. You're an adult, mature person with natural impulses and needs. Most of the men can't resist that and most of the men are stupid, superficial persons without personality who can't understand that because they simply haven't got the brains for that. I think that's the real reason for your problem.
2007-01-05 13:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by joci 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. I was a virgin until I got married. Being a virgin means not having to worry about getting diseases,end up with an unwanted child,never having to say "I wish I never slept with that person", no bad emotional scars. People who make fun of you are really jealous of your strength and are making fun of you to cover up for it.
2007-01-05 12:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by freedove06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u r at all.... on the other hand people who do it early on their lives may be losers because they probably dont really know what they are doing and they tell u that u are the problem.... u should do what u want and not be influenced by what people think....
2007-01-05 13:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by ro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think being 28 and a virgi is very sexy personally!! it show that he respects himself and the relationship won't be just about sex. i don't think this makes you a loser in any way. as far as the experience goes, i dated a guy who was a virgin and when we did have sex he rocked my world for real!! i almost asked that dude to marry me!! LOL!!
2007-01-05 12:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by felita2004 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no..its a very good thing
sex b4 marriage can cause so many problems..lack of trust..infidelity...
say a virgin..im still a virgin..and plan to be even if i get married at 30!
2007-01-05 12:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by A Girl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋