He is 10 and in 5th grade. Always had straight A's-this year 1st 9 weeks 3 A's and 3 B's. This time 2 A's, 2 B's, a C, and a D! Should I do something like take away the video games that he is obsessed with?
2007-01-05 12:34:13 · 28 answers · asked by kyeann 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I wouldn't completly take them away but I would make him study on the week-days them allow him to play them on the weekends.
If his grades don't improve from that method them I would completly take them away.
2007-01-05 12:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you first need to speak with his teacher and find out why the grade is so low. Is it because he is not completing homework or are his test scores low because he doesn't understand the material. Remember the first 9 weeks are largely spent reviewing old material so the second set of grades are more reflective of what is happening. Talk to his teacher and set up a reward system for the proper behaviors . As a teacher I have often recommended an assignment book being signed daily by the teacher. It helps open the lines of communication.
2007-01-05 12:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by apark3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grounding him is not going to solve much. There may be a problem at school. You need to find the root of the issue. Is he being bullied? Is he starting to "like" some girl? Does he need glasses? ---Something may be wrong and you need to find out what it is!!!
It may simply be that because classes become more difficult each level he needs more help from you, or a tutor. But something is going on. Talk to him. Don't say "come here I want to talk to you," but try to do it while you engaged in some activity. In that manner he will be less threatened and most likely willing to share more.
For goodness sakes....limit the video games anyway! Study after study shows that too much video gaming is detrimental to a disproportionate number of kids. ---All that research can not be too wrong! I think that with all of our modern day advances we are limiting imagination and creativity in so many of our children. ----One day that just might hurt us!
I hope this helps.
2007-01-05 12:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by YouAsked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.....why are his grades going down? Does he need extra help in school? If he really is actually "obsessed" with his video games, then it's a no brainer.....yes, take them away! Have you visited with his teacher? There may be other factors of why his grades are dropping. That's a drastic change from the first 9 weeks. Could be something wrong. Call his teacher.
2007-01-05 12:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a real obsession with it, reduce how much he plays. See what subjects he's not doing well in, and ask him if he had any doubts, questions, or just didn't understand anything it. Ask his teacher too. If he understands the subject, then try finding out if there is a distraction or something. Also, if he does not understand something, help him with it, and just brush through the things he knows and doesn't know. Finally, when he gets back to getting A' grades and B' grades, don't let him play too much videogames, just reduce it so that it won't happen again. ;)
2007-01-05 12:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to the teacher who gave him the D. Is he doing poorly in class or is he not turning in his homework? If it is his homework, tell him that he has to do his homework (and you or another adult) has to review the homework before he can play any video games. If it is something happening in school, you will need to find out what is going on at school since it's not his video games interferring.
Also try talking to him first (before contacting his teacher). Ask him what is going on and that you plan on talking to the teacher. To give him the benefit of the doubt, is he taking classes he's not used to taking? For example, some people are great in one subject (say English), but have a really hard time grasping the concepts of other classes (say Math).
2007-01-05 12:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GROUND HIM - talk to him, talk to the teacher and if there doesn't seem to be an obvious answer get him to the doctor for an eye exam and hearing exam. There is a boy in my daughter's class (she's 9) who was losing his hearing in one ear and because of his seat he couldn't hear certain things and had problems. Plus, there's always the chance of dyslexia - so don't just discard it to laziness or the like because that's what the teacher implies. The apparent lack of effort could be covering up for an inability to do the work. I think Henry Winkler (the Fonz from Happy Days) talked about his experience with Dyxlexia and how glad he was to be able to recognize the signs in his son.
2007-01-05 14:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think before you decide to ground him, you need to talk with him & find out why there's a drop in grades...after you talk with him, you should talk with the teacher & get his/her input...It may just be that the work is becoming more difficult.
After your conversations with son & teacher, if you feel that taking away the video games would help...then, I say GO FOR IT!
p.s....Does he have to do homework before playing the games? That's a rule in our house...no games until homework is done...AND I check over it first to make sure they've put in a real effort to do the work (things should be done neatly)...this would be a good way to make sure he's understanding the work, too!
2007-01-05 12:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by CaliforniaGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out the reason behind these slipping grades. Maybe talk to his teacher to find out wether or not he is being distracted in class or legitimately trying to get good grades. Talk to your son about it. See that he doing his homework. Maybe it's something you can sit down and do with him for a while to make sure he is understanding what is being asked of him. (I don't mean do his homework for him either). Just be there as a guide. Most importantly be encouraging.
If it turns out that he is finding the work much harder, i don't think he should be grounded as you need to maintain a good supporting relationship with your son.
If he is being distracted in class or doing the distracting, effecting his ability to concentrate in class then that particular problem needs to be addressed. Maybe more parent, teacher commniaton needs to be used until hs issues become sorted out.
2007-01-05 13:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, don't get too harsh on the guy. Firstly, (i bet you already did this;) Think about what's been going on lately. Any home issues? I went through this as well. I had A's and B's. THen got C's and D's. This was because I got lazy and my parents gave up on me. Have a good talk with your child. Ask him if anything's been on his mind. And if not, ask him why he was slacking off. It's not too hard. Maybe he's depressed or either just getting lazy. If he's getting lazy, then I would ground him or something like that and made sure he brought home homework.
2007-01-05 12:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is there a reason he got c's and d's? The work gets harder as he gets older so it may just be he is struggling and to punish him for this is wrong. Talk to him and find out if it is too hard and get him help. Limit his games but only so he can spend more time playing
2007-01-05 13:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋