wedding etiquette?

Question

would it be rude to invite a coworker that u really like, and not invite another that is close friends w/ the 1st one?

wouldn't it make it awkward if u don't invite that 2nd person (don't like her much!), but come back to work later and kinda awkward at work? is that worth inviting someone u don't like? (think as if hypothetically it is ur own wedding...)

Answer 1

If you think it may cause discomfort for people you should just go ahead and invite the second coworker too.

Also dont' forget you have to invite the significant others (if any) of these people, and if you invite anyone AT ALL from work, it is an etiquette rule that you also must invite your immediate supervisor.

Answer 2

Ettiquette guidelines for inviting co-wokers usually say that it's not rude to invite a couple of people and not others, as long as it's not obviously excluding one or two people. ie - If you worked in a department with five other people and you invited four of them, that could be seen as rude. Sometimes it's easier to include an extra guest or two than create an awkward work environment.

If you're only inviting the one person from work though, there should be no reason to invite the other one. This can get tricky if you work equally closely with both, and if you don't have any sort of personal relationship with either, you'll have to decide what makes the most sense. If you do have a personal (outside of work) relationship with the person you want to invite and not with the other one, it would be easier to justify just inviting the one.

You can always mention to the person you'd like to invite that they're the only one from the office you're asking, thus avoiding having them ask another co-worker "So, did you get your invitation yet?"

Answer 3

It's up to you to invite the people that you want to share your day with. If you are not close to a person why invite them? If they feel the same way about you and you did invite them, they will think you are just looking for a gift, or that you can't handle not inviting them....so don't worry about it and make the day about you and your future husband. You should always put "and guest" on any invitation to a single person, and who knows maybe they will bring the co-worker you were so worried about not inviting. Best wishes to you!

Answer 4

Where you work is it a big place with lots of co-workers. Or is it a small place with few co-workers.

If there are few co-workers maybe you should invite them all. So no one will be hurt. Its not like your going to hang out with anyone for a long time. You may see them and get a hug from every one where there leaving to go to the reception. but that is about it. You will be busy and have a lot of things to do then hang with them. So invite them and move on. Enjoy your wedding and try not to stress.

I am speaking as a wedding photographer, you really will stay busy. But do what makes you happy. and less stress.

Answer 5

I have always thought that if you invite one coworker, you have to invite them all, unless you are really good friends with one more than anyone else in the wedding.

If that is the case, then invite your friend. Be prepared for other coworkers, not just this other gal, to subltly and not subtly ask when they can expect their invitation. Even if you are following proper ettiquette, you will still need to explain to other coworkers why one was invited but not the others.

Answer 6

If it was my wedding I would probably just tell the one that you like in confidence that you dont want to really invite the other one but maybe have the one you like bring the one you dont like as a guest. I had a coworker come up to me (i liked her but we werent close or anything) and say "I heard you were getting married this weekend" and I said yes and she said "I LOVE weddings!" and I said OK, and she just stood there waiting to be invited. So I finally said "would you like to come?" and she said "SURE!!! Can I bring a friend?"....sure...but I got fifty bucks out of it for their combined gift and another happy coworker.

Answer 7

I understand where you are coming from. It's hard not to step on peoples toes when it comes to invites. Perhaps you could invite them both to the wedding ceremony and only the one you like to the reception. Tell the other one you have a tight budget but you still want her to be part of your day.

It's your wedding though, don't invite people you don't want. It costs money, and it is YOUR day.

Answer 8

why would you invite someone you don't like? if you had to invite a close friend of evryone you invited, that would be insane. If you invite your co-worker, I assume it is for her and a guest. If she chooses not to bring a date, perhaps she can then bring the other co-worker.

Answer 9

The day belongs to the two of you. Invite only those you truly want to attend.

Answer 10

if you arent friends with this person then I wouldnt invite them. my friends have alot of other friends that I'm not friends with also and I didnt invite them. that just wouldnt make sense. co-worker or not, if you arent close then dont invite the person.