I've had a step mom since i was 11years old and im am now 19. She has treated me horrible since i was little until i had my little girl and now she can't understand why i won't let her call herself grandma to my daughter... When i say she treated me horrible it consists of smashing answer machines, name calling, telling me that im not "daddys little princess anymore" " My dad now has two other daughters" and talking bad about my mom in front of me to others... I need some advice Should i let her be a grandma to her and put all that mean stuff behind or Stick with it and keep telling her to stop? (by the way my baby is only 6mos if that tells you how soon she decided to be nice to me)
2007-01-05 12:22:13 · 9 answers · asked by Alyssasmommy06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are other names beside "Grandma" that can be used
Nana, Grans, etc...
Hope this helps
Good Luck
2007-01-05 12:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by AngelWings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend some time healing for lack of a better word from your past and then make your decision. Right now you are still pretty fired up about how she has treated you and if you take a step back for a minute you can figure out whether or not that is something you want to do or not. As far as your father talking bad about your mother in front of you I would not be scared to just say polietly " I don't appreciate you talking about my mother like that in front of me." Hopefully you can come to a decision that makes you happy and be able to still keep communication with your father and your step mother.
2007-01-05 17:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by ♥JoJo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your "gut" on this one...
If your mom is still in your life and your daughter will call her grandma then just tell the "evil" mom that she already has a granny and you don't want to confuse your child.
On the flip side if she seems genuine with your daughter. And you feel comfortable then you could allow your child to call her granny (first name)
Tough situation. I think the biggest problem you'll have is trusting her around the baby. Good Luck!
2007-01-05 12:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should..its for the sake of your little daughter. Imagine how confuse can she be when she gorw up & find the feud between you both.
I know its not easy & ur a angry w ur step mom, who wouldnt? i would be mad at her to if i were you. Before this, you should talk to her & maybe even w ur dad about this problem. You are so noy happy, then tell her how terrible she has been treating you since you were little, that she has abuse you emotionally.
Then tell her that you want to make it work 4 the sake of your daughter now..i hope she will change & u can start foriving her little by little...
2007-01-05 12:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should spend some time away from both your father and step mother (a few months at least) to reflect and heal from the past. You will better be able to put things into perspective and decide what you think is in your daughter's best interest after your thoughts have cleared.
2007-01-05 12:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny how babies can change people. Let her see the baby, however, she really isn't biologically her grandma. Sounds like she has a temper problem so I would stick around to see how she treats the baby. Your dad should be aware of her behavior.
2007-01-05 12:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step daughter lived in my house from age 13- 16. She still holds grudges against me for being strict on her. I wasn't mean but she feels I was because her mom never had any boundaries. I feel since we are adults now, she should forget about the past and move on. I love my grandson she has ,but I will not push the issue of seeing him. The only person who will be miserable for holding onto the bad feelings, is yourself.
2007-01-05 13:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are an adult now who is responsible for the well being of your own child. You need to set the boundaries with your step mother and your own father. Inform them that in order to spend time with your child, they must adhere to your rules...no bad mouthing your mother, no talking down to you. Believe me, if she talks bad to you about your mother, she will talk bad to your own child about you. If they cannot live with these rules, then you have to stick to your guns and not allow them to visit.
It's your show now and you have to do what is in the best interest of you and your child.
2007-01-05 12:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be the bigger person and let her be grandma, who knows maybe she will change for good
2007-01-05 12:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋