i reacently adopted my 5 year old cuzn due to mer mother passing to cancer and her father not being around she wont talk to anyone and just started eating again our beloved grandmother is preety much on her death bed but my cuzn/daughter doesnt know it yet how do i tell her with out hurting her even more?
2007-01-05 12:18:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to be honest its best to tell her now so she can deal with it all at once because if she aventually get over her mothers death and then you drop another one on er she will fall right back down!
just tell her that granny got very sick and decided to go visit mummy so she isnt lonley ! her thinking of them together might elp!
good luck x x
2007-01-05 12:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by x HuNniBuN x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to get that little girl some professional help. TODAY! Look in your phone book under Mental Health. If you can not find anything in there then phone the closest childrens hospital and ask for "children's mental health" Explain to them the situation. And make her an appointment. These are 24hr hotlines so please do it now. You should also look for a support group in your area for yourself as she will need a lot of support in her healing process. Do NOT tell her about granny at this time.
I can not stress enough to do this right away. That little girl is very fragile.
2007-01-05 12:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to seek counsling 4 this child, at this point and time i think its best that you dont know or u need to have a conversation with her and explain 2 her that mommie is and heaven and grandma will be joining her soon and that they both love her and will be always looking over her. good luck give her many hugs and kisses and let her know that she's loved by you
2007-01-05 12:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by "Said&Done" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is deffinately a hard situation for her. is your gramma in the hospital? u can sit down and talk to ur cuzin/daughter and let her kno whats goin on with ur grandmother but let her kno that u love her very much while ur telling her. she needs love more than anything rite now
2007-01-05 12:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by dancerbabe32506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i think it's to much for a 5 year old to handle you better off asking someone in the medical field. she is in too much pain right now you said she just started to eat don't want her to stop again. she needs family love caring take her to watch a movie shopping anything to take her mind a bit off her problems. she is only a child. god bless. you can also talk to your church for help.
2007-01-05 12:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep spending time with her, build her dependance on the fact that you will be there for her.
As for explaining that her grandma is sick, just let her know that. Her grandma is very sick. If there is a chance you can visit her, let your new adopted visit her grandma and she will understand how sick she is...
she should probably be set up with a family councilor.
2007-01-05 12:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her in a language a five-year old can understand. Relay the facts to her as you did to us, except with more loving care and understanding of her feelings.
2007-01-05 12:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 tell her eventully. but u could let her know(if at all possible) by taking her 2 see ur grandmother. but if not just tell her. she will be sad any way u put it but she will eventully recover.
2007-01-05 12:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by brunette babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try checking at your local funeral parlor they may have some sort of reading book just for young children
2007-01-05 12:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by coldasice617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that soon she going to go rest cause her body is so tried but she will always be love that what i told my cousin .she just tried and she need rest,
2007-01-05 13:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋