My names Andrew I have a son, hes 19 years old. Im 36, yes I was young when he was born. Hes been dating this girl, Ashley for six months now. Shes 17 but will be 18 in a few months. They like each other alot but im sure theyre not in love. Recently Ive been having feeling for Ashley that I shouldnt be having. I have urges to just grab her and kiss her. But I dont just like her on a physical level, shes a really sweet girl. A while ago I was sick and she was there to help me. And by the way Im not married or seeing anyone else. Im not sure what to do, should I act on the feelings later after she turns 18 or should I just keep quiet about it ? I would never "make a move on her" while theyre together. But I really dont think theyll be together for much longer and I dont know if I should ask her out or something when they do break up...
HELP me please, your advice is greatly needed and appreciated
Thank you, Andrew
2007-01-05 12:17:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not an option for you, shes taken and even if she isn't...fathers just don't cross that line.
Your son will never forgive you.
2007-01-05 12:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Irrespective of any age difference, you would be better off to not act. Depending on how your son feels he may well always hold something for her, even if they break up. Personally even though some of my own relationships didn't end well I still hold them to be special and would not be impressed if my own Dad made a pass at them.
The best thing to do is just be the boyfriend's Dad. Be friends by all means, but don't let it go any further than that.
2007-01-05 20:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Graham M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you should do. If you didn't have doubts you wouldn't be posting a question on here. Move on to another pasture. Save your son some heartache. If they do break up and you discover that she feels that same way towards you...and she is 18 then perhaps discuss it with your son.
2007-01-05 20:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by molly b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont think their in love because you want her, and are in denial.
Of course she helped you when you were sick, you are her b/f father, what was she supposed to do, ignore you?
You are a lonely man, who needs to get a life of his own, and quit trying to live thru your son.
Go out and meet someone your own age, and leave your sons g/f alone. Asking out your son's g/f even if they break up is wrong. There would then be bad blood between you.
Leave her alone.
2007-01-05 20:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by tequilagold_32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not act on your feelings. I think its best that you try to stay away from her and try to find someone who is NOT dating your son. If you told her your feelings it would only cause heartache and trouble for everyone involved. You might even lose your son's trust. Your son will have girlfriends come and go, you should not even think about trying to hook up with one of them, no matter how pretty and sweet they are. There are many beautiful and sweet women around your age. I sugget you try to meet women closer to your age.
good luck:)
2007-01-05 20:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on who you value more, your sons love, or this other girls love. Your son will forever be your son, but this other girl may not last forever. If your son has feelings for her, then back off and see what matures. Your son should be the most important because he will be there even when others arent. Just be sensible about it!! Good luck!
2007-01-05 20:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER make a move on her. Your son will never forgive you, and with good reason. Find yourself another woman. Soon enough you'll find somebody else who makes you feel like this. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it is the truth. And most often, the truth hurts.
2007-01-05 20:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa Zondervan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Andrew, but she's a little bit young for you and she would probably freak out if you asked her out. It would save you a whole lot of trouble if you didn't make a move at all
2007-01-05 20:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by clm_8991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of fish in the sea and this fish is not the one for you! if you ask her out then she will be scared of you and keep away from you. get to know other people even if its hard. your not old but you are too old for her. please take my advice seriously and listen to it. otherwise you might end up crushed- and it could lead up to stuff like considering suicide. please find some other girl and don't feel bad about it. also, if you did go out with her then you would cause your son pain. you wouldn't want to do that, would you?
2007-01-05 20:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by MightyMan50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in ming that she is still a child. Even when she is 18 she is still a child. Dont act on these moves. If you do, your son will hate you and she may not like you in tha tway.
Email me.
2007-01-05 20:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ariel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋