Ok, so heres the deal. me and this girl went out for 9 months and she cheated on me once with a guy but she was dumb and im hoping and thinking in my heart that she grew up. but last april. i told her i didnt wonna have any part with her. so we didnt talk for the hole summer. we started talkin again this school year and im falling back in love with her again. but she told me over the summer she started to like the guy she cheated on me with and had sex with him 3 times. i got soooo mad!. how do i ever look at her the same? how am i gonna have sex with her? my mind is telling me not to because i could never look at her the same. what should i do?
2007-01-05 12:06:42 · 11 answers · asked by Joe b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your gut. If you don't think you can put it in the past and be with her, then you should not pursue a romantic relationship with her. Better to be just friends or perhaps not even friends, at least for now. Doesn't seem to me that you're ready to be with her again because an exclusive relationship, if it's to be a good one, involves a lot of adult thinking and behaviors. You have nothing if you don't have honesty and trust.
2007-01-05 12:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she cheat on you by falling in love (and having sex) with someone else over the Summer? You just said in your post that you told her last April you didn't want to have any part with her anymore. So you broke up with her, right? I mean what else would you call it? Anything that happens after that is fair game, as y'all aren't an item anymore.
Why are you back together with this gal, anyway? I think that you need to take a breather from all (girlfriend) relationships right now and just spend some time thinking about what is important to you in a relationship. And then go find yourself a decent girlfriend (that won't cheat on you whatsoever) when you truly know what it is that you're looking for. Why settle for this foolishness?
2007-01-05 12:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not be the same ever but so move on if u dont really love her and if you do ask god for help once a cheat well u know
2007-01-05 12:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off my dear, you dont need us to help you out. As i think you have already helped yourself in other words YOU already know the answer to your question. Just keep her as a friend and find some one else, that you can trust to be true to you (some one that wont cheat).....Good Luck
2007-01-05 12:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it. once a cheater always a cheater. its happened to me i went out with this guy for a year and a half and one day he tells me he has cheanted on my with his ex girlfriend and her best friend. i didnt talk to him for at least 5months but he asked me back out but i told him i would have to think about it so i thought about it and i talked to my best friend and i told my best friend that i dont know if i want to get hurt like that agian. i told him no and he just went out with this other girl in school
2007-01-05 12:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by aero_girl2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fool listens to his heart. But you said your mind is telling you not to and that is what I would do listen to your mind. The relationship is already tainted in your mind already and that doesn't make for a lasting relationship.
2007-01-05 12:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Guess Who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hit the pavement, peferrably barefoot, but let her go, you will find someone else, she' s not worth the headache and heartache.
2007-01-05 12:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up and get over it! after all, you were the one that said you didn't want to have anything to do with her. did you think she wasn't gonna date anyone else and wait around for you to change your mind....duh
2007-01-05 12:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by sassy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't open that window. You'd never trust her, and that will break you more than you can imagine
2007-01-05 12:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by hottstuf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about her
2007-01-05 12:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋