My fiance says we should make a longer engagement. Does this seem weird? Maybe he wants a long engagement so we have time to ourselves?
2007-01-05 12:06:22 · 18 answers · asked by Thelaka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Enjoy being engaged! It's a thrilling time and you will have eternity to be married to him. He just wants to get things in order so you have no regrets about getting finances in order , etc. If he wants to wait longer or postpone after a date is set...be cautious.
2007-01-07 15:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged on Christmas and we are planning the wedding for 2010 as well because that will be our 10 year anniversary. We have been together since freshman year in high school and are very happy with our living situation but we want to save money and buy a house and get settled before planning the big wedding that we both want. There are many reasons for a long engagement, ask him his reason for wanting to wait and if you agree then wait or try to compromise...after all isn't that what marriage is all about???
2007-01-05 14:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Krista M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2010????...wow...why bother even getting engaged yet. you cant start planning anything anyway. wearing the ring will just make you want to plan a wedding that he is puttign on hold for some reason. never heard of such a long evgagement. thats like going to be over 3 years away. either hold off on getting engaged or smack your bf and knock some sense into him. if you arent ready to marry then why get engaged?
2007-01-05 13:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated in another question that you have a child under 2. How on earth do you plan on having time to yourself?
Is your fiance the father? Don't you think that it would be less confusing for your son if you went ahead and got married sooner? In 2010, he will likely be in preschool or kindergarten -- that's a huge event, and a lot of stress to put on such a young kid.
Keep in mind -- it doesn't take 4 years to plan a wedding... it doesn't take one year, if you do it right!
2007-01-05 12:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2010 seems too long to me too. If he wants a long engagement it means he's having doubts or commitment issues. But at the same time it's better to wait. Ask him if you can cut it back a year or two. Try to find a compromise.
2007-01-05 12:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by talkwithflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very weird! The point of becoming engaged is to plan a wedding usually in the near future, otherwise you just date! I would not wait that long, sounds like your man has committment issues.
2007-01-05 13:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone needs to cut guys more slack. Maybe he wants to wait, not because he has doubts, but because he wants to save up for the wedding of your dreams! Men are like that. They think WAY more about finances than we think. Talk to him about it. You may be able to get the truth out of him. Ask him if he's worried about school or finances before you accuse him of not loving you. 2010...3 years away. If you're going to spend your entire life together, 3 years is not much in the scheme of things. Just follow the rules: Don't accuse him of anything including not loving you, don't jump to conclusions, give him time to answer and finish his sentences, and reassure him the truth is okay, and that you may have worries about other things, too, just not your love for each other. Best of luck sweety! I'm getting married in less than 24 hours after a 5 year relationship!!!! :)
2007-01-05 12:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Super Chic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "fiance" sounds like he wants to leave his options open. If he says he wants to marry you, why does he want to wait 3 years? What reason has he given you for such a long time?Marriage is the ultimate gift of your committed, unconditional love to another person. Doesn't sound like he's ready. Why waste 3 years of your life on someone who probably isn't going to be around by then? I suggest you offer him the opportunity for both of you to start dating others. You just might find someone better out there.
2007-01-06 12:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2010 is 3 years away - that's a long enough wait!
2007-01-05 13:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, he justs wants the milk and not the cow for at least 3 easy years.
When Dec 2009 rolls around, you can be sure he'll be onto his next conquest. She'll be younger than you also.
2007-01-05 12:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋