Am i gay? (im 13)?

Question

Well im 13, and in 2nd year of high school, and i'm getting attracted to some of the other boys in my class. I dont wanna do anything sexual with them, i just sort of like them. But yet, not that long ago, i was liking girls, and fancied them all, but its now changed. Its also boys on tv, some of them i like. Im sort of wondering whether im gay... but im not too sure. :( sorry if you get loads of these sort of questions, but im sort of worrying. :-(

Answer 1

at 13, concentrate on making friends some casual and some close and take life as it comes. While it may be nice to put a label on your sexuality why bother. It is far more important to experience life and all ir has to offer. and in the process find a person of liek mind to yrous in personality and interests and other factors then date them faithfully. Sure the dating may move on to others over time but at some point everythign will click and you will marry a person who is right for you and you for them. At that point, accepot them for who they are and you for who you are and the genitals you both have for what they are. For, if you choose partners solely based on them havign genitals like or not like yors, you may well wind up in a bad relationship. So pick them for personality and intelligence and hobbies and other factors and let the genital thing sort itself out.

Answer 2

What is it that you are admiring? It might just be that you want for yourself what you are attracted to in these boys. I mean, if you like their style, is it that you don't like yours? If it's their charisma, or their sense of humor...whatever...it might just be that you are finding out who you want to be, and you are looking for models to program yourself from. I think it is normal, and sounds like a pretty good thing to do. You should also start asking yourself who you really want to become...and it's best if you don't answer the question right away. Just let the answers to that question come to you whenever they do; they will always be answered for you. I used to go through the same feelings at your age, and I am very straight and have a great sexual relationship with a woman. This is a very challenging time for you, and I commend you for asking these questions and being open to any answer. Great work.

Answer 3

At thirteen your hormones are going nuts and your mind is trying to work out what you find attractive. In a few years time you might find you are gay, bi-sexual or heterosexual (most likely statistically). Don't worry about what you are - just be who you are. There's nothing wrong with any of them. The only thing you could mess up on is not accepting what your body and mind are telling you and living life in a depressing state of denial. And that's scary.

Answer 4

A lot of what people are saying is right. At your age your hormones start to kick in and sometimes it'll go haywire, making you attracted to things not normally attractive to you.

It could just be that you admire some of these boys and your attractiveness has been misplaced is all. Hope everything ends up ok.

Answer 5

i dont think your gay. i think that you are just at that age where your exploring your sexuality. i remeber when i was 13 (im 17 now fixin to be 18) and i would dream about having sex with other girls that i had seen on tv. But its just the age. you'll grow out of it. and you could just be bi-sexual. and there is nothing wrong with that. it just means that you can have more fun and go both ways. lol. hope i helped some. feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

First of all do not worry, you are perfectly normal. Your sexuality is just starting and hormones are running round your body, you need to release sexual tension by jerking off and this is good. It is quite usual for boys to experiment with other boys and jerk off together or even jerk each other off - be careful if c*m is flying about and do not do this with people significantly older.

Most boys have this phase for just a short time and become true heterosexuals but others prefer homosexuality and neither is wrong.

Enjoy your new found sexuality and enjoy experimenting safely.

Answer 7

Hmmm

well it may just be a phase. Give it time. Every guy at one time or another has probably been curious about that kind of stuff. You're emotions and hormones at your age are all over the place and wont really steady themselves till you hit your early twenties.

Until then talk with someone you feel safe about it and do some soul searching.

I'll pray for you.

Answer 8

At your age there is no way to tell. Way to early! I say, explore your feeling in both dirrections, before you make a commitment to physical exploration. When you are ready you can and will decide straight, gay or bysexual. There is nothing wrong with any of these! AND YES, THIS IS THE SAME ADVISE I WOULD GIVE MY OWN SON/DAUGHTER. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

I think it's OK that you feel attracted to other guys but just because sometimes you think that way doesn't mean that you are gay. Sometimes we girls think that other girls are attractive too but it doesn't mean we are lesbians. What you have to do is think why do you feel attracted to those boys at your school and also the ones on TV and instead of thinking of you and them, think about the qualities you like about them and try to apply them to yourself, so that way, girls will be attracted to you.

Answer 10

please realize that at 13, you are a seething mass of new emotions and ideas, and you could likely get attracted to a cat, dog, fencepost or stuffed animal, just because your hormones are going crazy. it does not in any way mean you are gay, attracted to fenceposts, or anything else, except that you are absolutely normal.

so don't worry, but begin to learn self-control and appropriate behavior and respect for others. keep a firm guard over your words and ideas; your brain is a living entity and it will feed on whatever thoughts you permit to dwell in there.

best wishes for a wonderful life,
cryllie