How do I fix myself?

Question

I am an angry teenager, and I am starting to figure out how mean I am. I swear a lot when I get mad, I am a racist when I get mad. basically, I blame everybody for my problems, and I get very violent feelings, like I really want to hurt someone. I would say I have committed every sin. I regret it, and I am trying to figure out how to make myself a better person. How do I make God forgive me, when I don't even go to church, and how do i open myself to Him, and have Him forgive me?

Answer 1

Always remember the parable of the prodigal son. The father in that story is God. Always waiting for his beloved son with open arms. Take the first step toward home. And e-mail me on Yahoo Answers. Listen...we've all been there. No sin is too great for God to forgive. I could tell you stories of people who were much more destructive, much more racist and much angrier that you can imagine....and they are peaceful, loving people today. Seriously - you want help? I'm here.

Peace.

Answer 2

Well, I too am an angry teenager, who has committed many sins. The thing is, I'm atheist and I do not ask forgiveness from God. I ask forgiveness from the ones that I have hurt. I started doing community service. If your religion plays a big role in your life, start giving back to the community. Other people will benefit from your good deeds as well. By doing something good for someone else, you will help to clear your conscious of the bad deeds that you have done.

Answer 3

Wow, that's very grown-up of you to recognize and admit all this. You've actually already passed the first step of repentance (recognizing you did wrong) and are well into the second step (feeling really bad about it).

The second step is actually the hardest, and most painful part - so hang in there, it's not going to be easy to resist just letting yourself go numb again.

The next steps are:
3) Ask God to forgive you in prayer (I would say confess to ecclesiastical leaders too if your specific religion dictates that, but I'll leave that to you to decide).

4) Ask the people you've hurt to forgive you (I'm thinking your should put your family on the top of that list) and do everything you can to set things right.

5) Don't do it again - (also a pretty hard one - if you do it again, don't dispair, just start the process over).

Also, just some extra advice - tell people you trust your goals and ask them to help you, try to avoid things that are easy "triggers" for you. And you may want to consider talking to a school counselor or someone that can give you some good advice on anger management.

good luck!

Answer 4

Michael; that means one who is like god, so your mom blessed you with a very noble and Godly name. One does not make God forgive them it is a free gift for any man (or woman) who sincerely wants and asks Him for it! You can do nothing to deserve it nor can you do anything to not deserve it.
Michael, you are a sinner, that is not a surprise to you as you already said it yourself. According to God's law we were/ are all sinners, and we all fall short of the mark. That means we cannot possible qualify on our own, for His forgiveness. A sinner is anyone who falls short of the mark, breaks God's law. According to his law, He cannot be in the presence of sin; sinners will die in the presence of God. However, He loves us all and does not want to see his children perish, but the law mandates that all who sin must die. The law also makes provision for a perfect sacrifice to fulfill the requirements of The Law. So God provided that perfect sacrifice, an innocent man, one whom had committed no sin. That man was his only begotten son, Jesus The Christ. That was sole reason that Jesus came down to earth, in the form of an infant. He came with the blood of kings and with heavenly lineage as well to break the line of sin from Abraham.
I do not know your background and what event(s) has led to your anger. Whatever it is, Jesus can and will accept you just the way you are, he will change your heart and you will be made new. After that you should seek out a good church with godly people who can and will help you grow spiritually.
The way to get the ball rolling is to talk to God! Tell him that you are a sinner, confess your sins as many as you can remember, don't worry about the ones that you can't remember they will all be covered shortly. Tell Him you are sorry for sinning and then repent! That simply means don't do it anymore. Ask God to forgive you for those sins, in the name of Jesus, that is the key, because he is the one who took your punishment in your place.
Before you are done you need to do one more thing, Ask Jesus to come into your heart, then tell God that Jesus is your Lord and Savior.
That may all sound complicated, it really isn't. However, you may want to seek out a believer who can and will lead you through what is called "the sinners prayer"!
This is not mandatory, it is however a good idea, because that person can help you get started in your Christian walk. They can also help you when you stumble and you will. There is a saying, "Christians are not perfect, just forgiven!" Don't worry too much about doing wrong after this, babies fall down when they first start to walk and you will too. If you are currently involved in some overtly sinful activity (ies) then you should try to distance yourself from that and anyone you now know, that are also involved, that way you will give yourself the best opportunity at your new life with Jesus. Then get yourself a Bible, steer clear of modern translations, as they tend to confuse and are not legitimate translations. I would suggest The King James Version, just don't sweat the "Thees and thous", they are no big deal.
The bottom line Michael is you can't fix yourself, none of us can. But Jesus can fix you, he can fix any of us; do let Him friend!
Hope this answers your question and helps steer you in the right direction.
May The Lord bless you with Peace.

Answer 5

First, you have to figure out what is making you angry - that will take some self-study, and you might even want to start talking to a counselor, at school or otherwise. Please do seek counseling of some kind.

Second, you can't *make* God forgive you, but if you ask, He will. Ask for His guidance as well in dealing with your anger issues.

I grew up in a family of rage-a-holics, and I know it is possible to get it under control. My brother has made an incredible transformation. I'm glad you are realizing the effect you have on others. Change probably won't happen over night, but it *can* happen if you work at it - be patient, seek help, ask for guidance...

I wish you the very best. Good for you for wanting to change.

Answer 6

Your recognition is the first step. Just being able to step outside your self and see how you might appear to others is a big step forward - it is called empathy. Hold onto it, because a lot of people much older than you do not have what you already have - the ability to see the impact you have on others.

As for forgiveness, Jesus tells his human disciples to forgive not just seven times, but seventy times seven. If God sets that high a standard for human forgiveness, why do you doubt his ability to forgive you?

Your next step? Maybe in a calm moment, go to the people you feel you've wronged. Tell them you are sorry. "Confession is good for the soul" they say... and you may be surprised how easily others forgive you when you own up to stuff.

Answer 7

He's already forgiven you. Maybe you didn't hear that: he's already forgiven you.

There's no magic bullet for spiritual growth. It's a struggle, a warfare. I don't know what all the sins are that you think you've committed. Quite likely a lot of them are not really sins and you shouldn't worry about them.

But hatred and anger are worth struggling with, though. All I can tell you is: fall in love with the beauty of real peace and holiness. Then your hunger for it becomes greater than your anger and you find you can just let things go that don't really matter, or stand up for what's right without getting angry. Once you taste what real holiness is like, the sweetness of it will draw you deeper and deeper in. But you'll always struggle, you'll always fail and have to pick yourself up. Mother Teresa said that God doesn't ask us to be successful, but to be faithful.

For now, I'd say hang out with anyone you can find who has real peace in his/her heart, and read the New Testament (especially the Gospels -- you can skip Paul for now), and let the image of Jesus' life sink into you.

Answer 8

The question is are you SAVE?

If not you need to accept Jesus Christ as you Lord and Savior.

Read Romans:

Romans 3:23; Romans 6:23A; Romans 6:23b; Romans 5:8; Romans 10:13; Romans 10:9; Romans 12:12.

Confess and Believe!!!

You must be a children of God to ask for his forgiveness.

If you are SAVE, you can go to God and ask him for forgiveness, as many time as you sin. He don't keep count of our sins.

You can't make God forgive your sins. He is a Forgiving God.

Just cause you don't go to church, don't mean you can't ask God for forgiveness. That is why he died on the cross, for our Sins.

God say we must fellowship with believe. This is what help us to stay strong in our time of needed.

I will be praying for you. God Bless!!

Answer 9

Wow, I am truly impressed by your humilty and sincerity. The first step to change is admitting you NEED to change. So your journey has just begun.

Young man, you are sooo very young. You can change! God WILL Forgive you! He is Merciful and Loving and SOOO very Kind. There is a saying, "If you crawl to God, he will Walk to you. If you walk to God, he will come to you Running, and if you Run to God, He will come to you Flying".

Just take a Bath or shower, put on a fresh change of clothes, then get down on your knees and pray. Talk to God just like you talk to your friends. Tell Him you are sorry, and that you want to change. Ask Him to Guide you, and to make you a better person. He is the Best to Guide. I promise you, if you pray that and really mean it--your Life will Change.

Answer 10

Living a Christian life is the best life there is. God will give you real peace, love, and joy that will be so awesome. Jesus Christ said this in the book of John 10:10 in the Bible," The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly"

To know you are saved you must believe there is a God in the first place, believe God raised his only begotten Son Jesus Christ back to life again after he died on the cross for you. Confess to God your sins, then invite Jesus Christ to come into your heart, to be your Lord and Savior.

Revelation 3:20 Jesus said this,"Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me..

verse 21 To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne.

Can you imagine setting in the throne of Jesus Christ? I can't wait to meet him face to face. God is very good, and you will never be the same again. The Christian life can be fun and some of the best friends ever will be there for you. The best girls will be in church also. I hope you will invite Jesus Christ into your life, I will praying for you.