as your child? Well my now ex boyfriend said that i love my own daughter more than him... I mean that is my baby girl of course i'm not going to love anyone as much as i love her...Should i feel bad?
2007-01-05 11:35:01 · 22 answers · asked by breyanasmommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, you should not feel bad.
I'm basing my answer on the assumption that your ex boyfriend is your daughter's father. If not, then kick him to the curb without question and don't read any more.
My husband and I had been together for 2 years when we got pregnant with our first daughter. We decided that we loved each other very much and could live together as husband and wife, so we got married.
But I'll tell you something. If I hadn't known that he would be a good father, I would have run from him. I would never have told him that I was pregnant. I just would have packed up and left.
He feels the same way I do. If I ever try to harm our children, he will take them from me, and I feel the same way about him. I love him more than I love myself, but I would never sacrifice my children to save his soul. If I ever think he is making a bad decision about raising our daughters, he will know about it. And if I ever suspect he may be abusing our daughters in any way, I will dig his grave (figuratively, of course). And vice versa.
You have an ex boyfriend...and that's about as much as he gets from you. You should never compromise anything for your daughter to please him. And he shouldn't for you. If he tries to play the guilt trip on you, that just shows how selfish he is. Put him in his place, and remind him that he has a daughter to take care of. It's not about how much you love him or how much he loves you, it's about how much you both love your daughter. It's about coming together as adults and making the best decisions the two of you can for your daughter.
2007-01-05 12:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by ninn09262 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont never feel bad or guilty about that, as mothers we love are children more than anything in this world, if we didnt then we wouldnt be human. We let this babies grow inside us for nine months and then go through pain to have them but knowing what a reward the pain is, and then we spend the rest of our lives teaching them and guiding them through life! Never feel bad about loving your child too much, because in my eyes no one can be loved enough. I am glad he is your ex because he sounds like the jealous type.....
2007-01-05 19:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! you should deffently not feel bad! your "boyfriend" needs to grow up....i cant believe someone would say that about a lil girl, it makes him sould like a younger sibling or something. But DUUHH of corse you would love your own daughter more. . .maybe involve him in more activities that she does...maybe he just feels left out of her life. But he doesnt sound like hes worth the time, good thing hes an ex.
good luck sounds like your an awsome parent for putting your own child first before a bf!!
2007-01-05 19:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not feel bad. Good thing he's your ex. Sounds like he has some real jealousy issue. You should love your child(ren) more than a boyfriend.
Good for you for putting your daughter first! So many parents dont!
2007-01-05 19:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by breakfromthekids 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not!!! that is your baby. i dont think that there is a mother/father in this world that loves someone more than their own child. do not feel bad. men can get very jelous of children at times especially in the early years.
that is your baby and should be your #1.
2007-01-05 21:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by bossy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You children always come first.
In a marriage life is about the children, but a lot of couples forget that theyre married to their SPOUSE not their children. Its a delicate balance.
Children learn love by watching their parents relationship. The strength of their parents relationship together gives them confidence in themselves and in their own relationships.
You'll always love your children more, in a sense, because its a different love.
2007-01-05 19:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend like that also who expected me too love him more then my son, he was jeolous that I loved my son more then him. My children come first Fu*k a man.. I told my Ex... that the love that I have with my children is forever and our love was temporary. So he said that I was so negative.. I told him that it is true, we are not together now and my kids are still here...
Do not feel bad too feel that way for your child, screw him...
2007-01-05 20:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel bad, I've been with my husband for 17 years and I love him very much, but I love my daughters more, and if I would have to choose, I would give him up for my kids.
No one comes before my kids.
2007-01-05 19:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by kreolelady72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the reasons we have children is to provide them with unconditionally love, nurture and mentor them until they go out and start their own families. Sounds like your ex had a little jealousy thing going on, but just so you know - that is not uncommon with another adult who hasn't fully bonded with the child.
2007-01-05 19:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by Leo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way with the exception of your husband you shouldn't love anyone more than your baby girl. Even then most women love there children more than there husbands. Which is okay since most husband love there children more than there wives.
2007-01-06 01:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋