My boyfriend treats me like royalty for a couple of weeks and then he treats me like the scum of the earth for a coulple of weeks. This routine has been going on for some time now and it gets pretty bad. Even physical sometimes. Don't say "LEAVE HIM" cause i'm sure that will happen sooner or later. The question is WHAT KIND OF MENTAL PROBLEM DO YOU THINK HE MIGHT HAVE? One second he kissed me and told me he loved me and twenty seconds later out of the clear blue he starts calling me a wh*re and a sl*t and a bit*h. He treats me like this for a couple of weeks and then back to "I Love you" and I'm so sorry and i will never do it again.
2007-01-05 11:26:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
He has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/index.html
"Be wary of wandering into this dragon's cave -- narcissists will say ANYTHING, they will trash anyone in their own self-justification, and then they will expect the immediate restoration of the status quo. They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc., and then -- well, it's kind of like they had indigestion and the vicious tirade worked like a burp: "There. Now I feel better. Where were we?" They feel better, so they expect you to feel better, too. They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you."
You can't change him and your life will be hell if you choose to life with him. He needs deep psycho-therapy, and years of it. Sorry, but LEAVE if you value yourself and your sanity.
2007-01-05 11:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is the way my dad treated my mom when I was a kid. He treated me and my sisters the same way. I lived for 19 years of my life in this. Dad would beat up Mom and me and my sisters. It has caused all kinds of problems in my life. I am 50 years old and I still suffer from post traumatic stress at times. If you continue with this guy you are doing a injustice to him==if girls would all run from him, do you think he would eventually get the message? If you stay with him you are taking the chance of being seriously hurt. Dad was so nice when he was out in public but even Mom said that she was afraid he was going to kill her. Would you want to raise children in this environment? RUN--get away from this guy before you get any more involved wth him.
2007-01-05 13:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar maybe, anti-social behavior, depression, anxiety?
He needs to see a doctor. If you love him (and you must) then maybe you can get him to see a doctor. Also some counseling for the both of you may help.
You do not have to be in a relationship were you are physically and emotionally abused, no matter what, no matter how much you love him or he apologizes for his behavior. What you are going through with him is not love.
Good Luck!
2007-01-05 11:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have a mental problem, or he could just be a jerk.
Regardless of what HIS problem may or may not be, you should NEVER stay in a relationship with someone who talks to you that way and roughs you up physically. NEVER. You are worth more than that. Kick him to the curb and find a support group for abused women or a counselor to talk to. Take care of yourself and stop worrying about him.
2007-01-05 11:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by writer272002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not have a mental disorder at all and his problem is not complex at all. He may be just obsessive-compulsive. He treats you good for a while but then he feels that you are controlling him then he gets the idea where he can treat you bad for a bit to show you whos the boss. But then he feels sick with himself and treats you good again.
2007-01-05 11:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Fortier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does not sound like the classic bi polar phases. most bi polar people are very high and then very low. it doesn't sound like he gets the lows, or the highs. it just might be bad behavior he sounds abusive to you, and then apologizes. but he keeps doing it. give him an ultimatum, get help, or you leave. sorry but you do not need to be physically and mentally abused. you are not doing yourself or him any good by putting up with this behavior. his behavior will only get worse, because you are letting him manipulate you. sorry i don't mean to be cruel, but i feel bad what u are going thru. i think violet pearl has your answer
2007-01-05 14:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by zeek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be bi-polar - extreme highs and then being very low. Why or why hasn't he gone to the doctor? He is the one who has to take care of this - it will NOT change until he sees the doc.
2007-01-05 11:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really is a mental problem, which I'm not completely sure it is, it sounds like bipolar disorder/manic depression. Look it up, and see if it fits.
2007-01-05 11:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schizo or schizoaffective disorder.
He needs psycho help not yours.
Get the hell out of that relationship.
These people have a high incidence of murder when not controlled psychologically.
2007-01-05 11:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this looks like the early stages of ABUSE. Mental abuse now, PHYSICAL ABUSE next. GET OUT NOW! I'm sure he won't agree to counselling, so you'd better get out before he punches you and then says, "I'm so sorry. It won't happen again."
2007-01-05 11:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋