I have recently found out that my sixth grader now has a "boyfriend". She told me "Nothing really 'happens'. We don't really go on dates. It's just like saying we like eachother." I want her to be happy and not to be angry with me, but I don't want her to grow up too fast. So my question is, at what age should kids start "daiting"?
2007-01-05 11:23:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are the parent, she is your child. It is your decision since you are responsible for her. My older sister started dating at 13. My parents had told her she had to wait until she was 16. Since she got away with it, I said it was unfair so they let me start dating when I turned 13 too. Even then it was only around school and not going on actual dates. It was when I was 16-17 that I could say I went on an actual date. Hormones rage in teens. They are just exploring. They need adults to help them be rationable. They need rules like curfews and what to expect and what is not allowed. Allow them to talk openly about their questions regarding the opposite gender,etc. You are there to help guide her and she tries to figure out this part of her life. As she gets older, she'll mature some. She might could handle more responsibility then. Ultimately, it is your decision. You can't let her walk all over you in fear she'll be mad at you. Do what you think is best for her for now.
2007-01-05 11:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14. Many of my friends have rules to not date until they are 16. My parents have certain rules. No closed doors when he's over, no going to his house, no movies alone, etc. But he can come over, we can go on group dates, he sees movies and goes out to eat with my family and it's fun! I don't need to do more to love him. When I'm 16 I can go to his house, etc. I've been with him for one year since yesterday actually. But yeah I think that it is ok to like someone but not to do anything serious that requires adult responsibility until they are a little older. Also, don't question her about this person all the time. Sometimes it is ok. She will open up I promise. She's told you and that's the first step to trusting her. I used to be shy around my parents talking about my boyfriend but now he's all I talk about. I hope I gave you some perspective from a younger person's point of view.
2007-01-05 19:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by K.T. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that the way that the world is today and all of the fuss over sexual harrassment and alot of children getting into trouble over this issue that it is best for children to begin dating at age 16 and they should not be allowed to go on unsupervised dates/outings until they are at least 19 or 20. I have 3 children and the things that they come home and say tells me what children their ages are already thinking and they are 12, and 13. We, as parents, have to be very careful. They are too many sex predators out there to take advantage of our children.
2007-01-05 19:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "dating" phase will usually start at around 16 years old, and that's when the boy will start coming around the house more often. During 6th grade, I'm not sure that's a real "boyfriend," and there's no real reason to have a serious relationship at that time. She should be having fun at this point, not thinking about boys.
2007-01-05 19:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like your daughter said, going out at their age means nothing. It's later on like in late jr high or high school that you need to start worrying. Just have a in-depth conversation about the many things that dating may lead to. tell her she can always come to you for advise and don't push her away. This may prevent boys from taking advantage of her.
2007-01-05 19:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by charity16sand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-05 19:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
16. Think about it, does a CHILD need a boyfriend/girlfriend? Dating is something that needs to wait until you see that your daughter is mature enough to start getting involved with boys (keep in mind these are teenage BOYS). Make sure you talk to her about any and everything you want her to know about dating, sex, and boys before you allow her to start dating. It's not too early to start talking to her.
2007-01-05 19:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by miss_lady404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would start to talk about boys and set limits on what she can and can not do with her boyfriend. Some kids start experimenting at that age.
2007-01-05 19:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by grnevl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People around here started "dating" in 5th grade. Not that I think it's right. I think it's just because they crave for people to notice them because they're dating so-and-so. I think it's stupid. But, it really depends on the person.
2007-01-05 19:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Hiperactivo! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom lets go to skating rink or something kind of like a date but it's not but we hang out there. by the way i'm 12.she want leave us there alone though.
2007-01-05 19:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by I ♥ Cena!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋