I just found out that my future brother-in-law was married the same day that my fiance and I have chosen for our wedding date. Does etiquette or even common courtesy require that I change our date?
2007-01-05 11:22:35 · 12 answers · asked by BellaBean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be very polite to ask them. Invite them to celebrate their anniversary at your wedding !
It might be fun to share an anniversary.
2007-01-05 11:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cammie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think there's any ettiquette that says you should change the date. Common courtesy might suggest that you (or your fiance) talk to them about it and make sure they don't have a problem with it, but I don't see why they would. Would you have a problem if a close relative got married on your anniversary?
If you're uncomfortable with it and you haven't started any real planning (ie. if you've just picked that date but haven't booked anything), you could consider changing it. But there's certainly no reason to. I was in a wedding a couple of years ago that happened to be on one of the bridesmaid's birthdays - there's no way you can avoid every "special" day.
Unless anyone has any big issues about it, just treat it like a special coincidence. (And besides, it will give both guys no excuse for forgetting their anniversaries, because they can always ask each other when it is!)
Congratulations.
2007-01-05 20:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you change your wedding date? Obviously the date means something to the two of you. He'll have other anniversaries, and besides, they can celebrate after the wedding or on another day.
2007-01-05 21:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it requires that you do...but I would just so I could have my own day. I was going to have my wedding on memorial day weekend but I changed it so that I had my own day and so more people were able to be there. So I think it's totally up to you.
2007-01-06 01:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would change it just to save future headaches, not from the guys but from your future sister in law and all the women in the family. Go with the next weekend if you have to. That would be my advice.
2007-01-05 21:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't . If there is a particular reason why you chose that date for yourself....keep it. If he and his brother are close...it's kind of cool. Maybe at the reception when the best man does the toast. Your husband can say a little toast to his brother and his wife. Doesn't have to be complicated. Could be fun.
2007-01-05 19:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him and his wife. Some people wouldn't mind at all, but others do plan trips/vacations/etc. around their anniversaries, and probably would appreciate it if you chose another date so that they could attend.
2007-01-05 19:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why
2007-01-05 19:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by fishes 4 ducks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your future brother-in-law and his wife.
2007-01-05 21:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't matter. You won't be celebrating your anniversaries together!
2007-01-06 07:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋