What should I do when my boyfriend wants me to write him a dirty letter?

Question

What should it say?

Answer 1

Don't write anything you wouldn't be willing to have read out loud in front of his friends or yours for that matter.

Answer 2

First of all, you don't have to agree to it. That would be just obliging him. He's your boyfriend, not your history teacher telling you to turn in an essay on World War II.

Second of all, he's a guy. All guys are perverted. Hence the asking you to write him a dirty letter.

Point is, the fact that you don't know what to write means that you didn't have an intention of writing a dirty letter to him before until he brought it up, and now you feel obligated because he's your boyfriend. In personal situations like this, I suggest not doing it. In the long run, if you keep on doing things for him and running around doing what he asks, he will literally be in control over you. And men have more of a need to dominate, which could lead to violence.

If you're unsure? Don't do it.

Answer 3

Step1 Picture your boyfriend. When you are writing a letter to your boyfriend, picture him. Think about the smile on your partner’s face as he goes through your letter. Imagine that you are next to him as you think about what you want to say to him. Step2 Get yourself into the groove. Get yourself in the mood to write something dirty to him. Wear the underwear he likes on you. Put on some perfume or even lie down on your bed and fantasize about him. This makes the emotion you put down on paper more real. Step3 Be honest. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to writing a dirty love letter. Tell him how you feel. He will like it that you are honest to him. If you really want to spice things up, include a dream or a fantasy you have of him. Remember we are looking for honesty and intensity here. Don’t go overboard, though. Although you aim to get him excited about you, you don’t have to get too pornographic. Use the words "I" and "you" a lot. This will give him a sense that you are there with him when reading the letter. Step4 Write legibly. The worst thing that can happen to a dirty love letter is when your boyfriend asks help from a friend to decipher it. It isn’t only embarrassing for you, but it is embarrassing for him as well. You don’t want him to misread, “I miss your touch” with “I pissed your couch." Step5 Put something from you in the letter. You can dab on some perfume to remind him of your scent or you can add some red lipstick. You can even insert a copy of your picture in there. This will remind him of you and puts in you into the thick of things.

Answer 4

Are you kidding me? DON'T DO IT. You might think that you'll be together forever, but chances are you wont. How are you going to feel if you guys break up and he gets pissed at you and decides to show that letter to his friends? Or if he makes a hundred copies and passes it out at school?

I know that sounds cynical and paranoid, but that's the kind of crap people do to get revenge. If you don't feel comfortable saying it out loud, don't put it in a letter!

Answer 5

You should say what you feel.

The truth is always a good place to start. Also say that your being honest and not wanting to hide this from him, but that you feel uncomfortable in doing this.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I've never been good at that kind of thing...but I can tell you where to look: the internet is full of erotic stories. Find one that's written in first person and take notes.

Answer 7

It should say ,what you want him to do to you.... A fantasy, but sexual... in details most likely too.... frame by frame...they're FUN... although I wouldn't be able to tell you what to put in it, because yahoo will block it out.... basically like ....
I want your hands running up my legs and the inside of my thigh. Then I want you to kiss me on my neck, then I would sit on your lap, and grind back and forth, while kissing you, and running my hands up and down your arms, while your hands are on my hips, helping me rock..
along those lines. :O) thats teh PG 13 version ....

Answer 8

write a letter saying hey or somthin in the dirt and tell him to read it.

Answer 9

it should be perverted cuz guys love that
put sexual stuff and write what you would want to do to him n what you'd love to see
then ask what you do to him
be specific
and describe everything
guys dig that so badly

Answer 10

i would never do it, as if u and he broke up he could use it against u, and show others and embarrass u, and humiliate u. stranger things have happened when we split up with someone, and they seek revenge to hurt us and make us look bad. just don't do it.