I think my daughter is depressed but she won't talk about it...?

Answer 1

So often the daughters prefer to talk to a trusted aunt or mom's best friend more than mom herself (unfair, I know - but often true, you must admit). Maybe schedule some time around another trusted adult female where they might get a moment alone.

Another thing you can do is just to mental things for her. Protection exercises, visualization and affirmations can all help, I have found. Get a clear picture of her in your mind, and see her smiling, happy and carefree. See her with a white ribbon of light spiralling around her from 1 foot above the head to 1 foot below her feet to protect from negative influences. Anytime you hear yourself say "She is sensitive" or "She is depressed" - gently correct yourself to say "She is a lovely girl" or "She is feeling better each day".

Some folks can't get behind these methods, but honestly, what else is left for us as mothers to do? You try to teach them to be smart and self sufficient and then you need to let them be on their own. The only thing we can do to help them after that is to listen when they talk and pray for their health and happiness otherwise.

Peace!

Answer 2

See if she will go to a counselor Tell her no one needs to know. Tell her if she will go 3 times you will give her some type of reward. Then if she wants to quit--ok. My daughter was having panic attacks and severe depression when she was in high school, I didn't know what to do. She tried to commit suicide--unsuccessfully-thank God. When she was in the emergency room she said "Mom what is wrong with me." She couldn't tell ya. a few years later we found out she has an inherited a mental disorder. It doesn't mean you have done anything wrong. My daughter said she knew her home life was good. None of us at the time knew what was going on. When she went on anti depressants for a while is got ok/ My kids I would just lay down beside them and I'd be quiet hoping they would talk. It worked a lot of times. Spend time with her just being mom and daughter--friends.Being a parent is not easy--good luck.

Answer 3

How old is your daughter? My daughter is 11 years old and has been picked on and bullied at nursery & school constantly since the age of 3. Sometimes she is ok but other times she can be very moody and aggressive towards me, which is when I usually know that something is wrong. She does talk to me but only because I have told her about my time in school and that I have been bullied tooand that I know what she is going through, so she must'nt bottle things up.

Answer 4

Its cool how some moms are so concerned..mine doesnt even know if am still a virgin or not...well anyway,if ur a mom like mine...shy and never talkin abt boys and stuff then it will be kindda disgusting talking about a problem with you...if ur the wild type,it will be scary,if ur the nice type and she is the mean type,just kill her with kindness...bring her cookies and stuff to her room,if she still doesnt talk,PLEASE dont force her..that'll be worst! Just make sure u dont get real mad or surprised when she gives an unexpected reason...and PS if it concerns skool,please DONT go call the principal and stuff...be a cool mom.

Answer 5

Be the best listener you can when she is ready, but please... don't put her on any medication. Depression means that a person needs a change in their life from repetition that is no longer serving them.

Take her out for time together before she makes any plans with her school friends and in time, she will speak to you. Just don't offer any solutions... just listen to her or she will stop telling you.

Answer 6

That´s natural.

When someone is depressed it is common that the person does not want to talk about anything.

Sometimes the person simply does not say anything...

But try to reanimate her.

Try to bring some happiness to her.

Some gift, good words, one kiss, one hug ...

Show her that you love her

Love is the cure for every injure!!!

Answer 7

Sit down with her and have a one on one and you tell her some things about you that she dont know gain her trust and maybe she will open up and tell you what is the matter

Answer 8

Sounds like it is time for a weekend getaway for just the two of you...the best way to get her to open up is not to be obvious in pressing her...just need to get the bond juices flowing...where she WANTS to share...be patient.

Answer 9

if she doesnt talk at all, at LEAST make sure she isnt suicidal!! i was the "daughter" in this position, and you would not believe how hard it is to come and talk to your parents about your problems

Answer 10

tis very hard to get girls to talk, especially teen agers, even if you had the best relationship most of their growing lives, if she won't talk to you see who she will talk to, maybe a school councelor, then go from there.