to change someone's dependancy? My girlfriend thinks that I need to text her all day long, then hang out with her until the late night....Every single day. On top of that, she does not trust me at all. She checks my phone, my computer and doesn't let me watch MTV because I might see other girls on it.
Is there anyway to change how insecure she is, or is this what I can expect?
2007-01-05 11:13:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you have a control freak.. you can try to talk to her and see if she'll back off some, but if she doesn't, it will probably only get worse.
2007-01-05 11:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and tell her that a relationship is based on trust. without it you have nothing. Tell her to stop checking your stuff! If she doesn't get the picture then do it to her and see how she likes it. If you really like her, constantly tell her that she's the only one you want to be with and that you wouldn't dream of being with someone else. tell her that if you ever desire another woman that you would break up with her rather than cheat (say it so she believes you, but only if this is true for you...don't lie) The thing about spending too much time with her is a trickie issue. You need to be very gentile. When she texts you, you can tell her that you're bussy and you'll see her later tonight. You could tell her you're tired and want to go to bed early. Whatever you do just be honest. If you lie it would give her more to be worried about.
2007-01-05 11:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by charity16sand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest that is just the way she is... you could try telling and explaining to her that you are with her and show her that she can trust you, but the dependency you cant change.
You should defiantly explain to her that you want to be with her but that you want time apart and that the truth she is been too dependent, may she should get a hobby to keep her mind busy.
2007-01-05 11:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she will change. Maybe if you tell her that she might lose you because of how smothering she is acting she might lighten up a bit. Good luck!
2007-01-05 11:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Thumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her...tell her that she is the most pretty girl u ever seen etc... and no one for her jealousy and believe me if u conviss that she should trust u then she won't ask u to txt her all day long
2007-01-05 11:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋