There is this guy i like and he says that he does not want to get his heart broken again. and that his heart has just been broken by one girl that cheated on him twice. He says that he wants to be friends with benefits with me for now and whatever happens...happens? Do you think he really likes me ?
2007-01-05 11:12:52 · 19 answers · asked by nyuma_njie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, he does not really like you. When a guy really likes a girl, he does not ask her blatantly to have sex without a commitment. Furthermore, he does not just come out and ask for sex.
Sounds like he does not even like himself right now, so how on earth can he possibly like you. If you truly love yourself and have self-worth and integrity, you will not dishonor yourself or your body by being friends with benefits (which is all a load of crap to me) with this guy who claims to like you. There is no such thing as sex without consequences. When there is sex involved, there will always be consequences; whether physical or of the heart and emotions.
2007-01-05 11:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he really liked you, he wouldn't want to use you. Chances are he probably has six other "friends" who HE is benefiting from. In the end you're going to get dumped and he'll continuing having sex with all his "friends." You will never gain his respect because he will think you would just sleep with anyone without being in a solid relationship.
Furthermore, it sounds as though you like this guy. Maybe you should hold off from having sex until you find someone who really, really, REALLY likes you, and who has proven to like you for some time.
2007-01-05 19:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by jussagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he likes you. He likes you enough to hook up with you at least. But do you really want to waste your time with a guy who never wants to call you his girlfriend? Could you really be with a guy when he has permission to do stuff with other girls? Think about it. no strings attatched. ... He could be with whoever he wants. If you are emotionally damaged right now then friends with benefits could be a good choice for you.... This is why he is obviously taking this route. Getting your heart crushed is no fun. But if yours hasn't been crushed yet then you should avoid it and trust me it could hurt you in the long run if you like him a lot. There are better guys out there you could be with.
2007-01-05 19:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by LIZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If he liked you if would have gotten over his insecurities about being cheated on. You're obviously an adult and can make your own decisions, but I would warn you about entering a 'friends with benefits' type relationship. It's a FACT that one person, or both will always get hurt. So if you're prepared to get hurt, or hurt him....do it. Find a boyfriend and sleep with him.
2007-01-05 19:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Britney S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont do it if he just broke up with his gf that cheated on him then your the rebound chick he just wants to prove he is still manly and can still handle a girl even though his ex cheated. friends with bennifets are not the best way to go if you really like him you should wait, to tell u the truth, bc he has no respect for you,he wants to use you and loose you. if he doesnt want to have a gf he doesnt want the burdon and that is crap about the heart being broken and you know it if you really like him u 2 can wait for alittle longer untill your both realy
2007-01-05 19:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits....definately a waste of time. You should look for someone who wants more than a physical relationship. You deserve to be with someone who wants to give you 100% regardless of what has happened in the past.
2007-01-05 19:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. If he wants to be friends with benefits then he obviously does not want a relationship w/ you. He just wants to use you. You can get attached and then end up hurting. Not a good idea!
2007-01-05 19:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by talkwithflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have other friends with benefits...go ahead. but if hes the only one that you have, hes playing you. Because you might not be the only one he has with benefits. Some guy tried to do that to some person I know...I mean C'mon... I guess find out if you would be the only one just so you could know your not getting played...especially if you have feelings for him.
2007-01-05 19:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, he likes you as a fck buddy.
if he's been cheated on twice, then he's not ready for a relationship and he's not going to be for awhile.
how many 'friends' will he be doing? will that make you feel good? yeah your gettin' it from him, but who else is? who are you sharing him with? do they have the same feelings as you? is he just using you as a hole?
it's harder for girls to separate their feels from the act. are you willing to risk being one of the majority who's feelings do get hurt when he's doing someone else the night that you want to be with him?
do you think he's showing you respect right now?
if you're ok with your answers to all those questions, then do it!
2007-01-05 19:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how well you know the person... If they are a good friend, and you can trust them then yes. But if being with them makes you feel shy and scared, then just back off of it for a while. Either way good luck and I hope all ends well!!
2007-01-05 19:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋