Why Was I Born?

Question

I was born to married parents and I think they were both about 27 or so. They divorced when I was a few weeks old. I never saw my dad again. My mother (or somebody else who was in our house - nobody knows) threw me against a wall when I was 6 weeks old because I wouldn't stop crying. I fractured my skulll. A few weeks later I was put into foster care where I was sexually abused. Nobody in my mother or father's extended famliy ever came to get me and I remained in foster care for my entire chldhood and teens.

I wound up going to an Ivy League school and forging a good career. But I still have issues with depression and sadness, even though I'm in therapy.

My question is, why was somebody like me even born? I can never be as "good" as a child who was wanted and cherished and loved by its parents....

Answer 1

There are so many children who were born into a great family and loved imensly, yet they too wish that they were never born.

You have been given the opportunity by our creator to make a difference. You are worth so much to him. You are a very valuable instrument that he has cherished and allowed to flurish. He has a plan for you here on earth that you must complete.

God is the one who gives you the ability to produce your wealth. God calls us to confront our own feelings openly and honestly. This is great that you have opened up your feelings and have asked a question that the Lord wants the speacial ones to answer. Our heavenly Father calls us to work actively toward forgiving others and restoring broken relationships. I say this in the sense that if you can find it in your heart to forgive them, it will lift a brick off your shoulder. In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.

Since I fist read your question I prayed and asked God to help you understand what He wants you to do; asking Him to make you wise about spiritual things; so that you will always be doing good, kind things for others from pain that has arised within you. This will give you strength to teach others. This may be your calling as it may not be, only God knows.

Dont give up, you are worth a lot more than you realize. God is there for you to protect and guide you through your life. He is happy with you and loves you more than any human on this earth. You not only mean so much to him, but you are a very important part in his creation. Think of only what he thinks about you and what your purpose here is for. He will guide you to what you need to do.

When you have your daughter, she will be blessed to have a wonderful mother. Someone who understand what pain is and has overcome the ordeals of life. You are blessed!!

I have told you all this so that you will have peace of heart and mind. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up, for HE has overcome the world.

Answer 2

You're right, you'll never be as good as a wanted child....you are better!!! You were put on this earth to make the world a better place and it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job at it. There are children who are cherished by their parents and don't amount to anything! Unfortunately, there are many people incapable of loving and caring for a child and you just happen to be born to them. It saddens me to think of all that you have gone through in your childhood but I can't help but smile when I see all that you have done with your life since then. You are someone I would be proud to know and that's why you have been put on this earth. You will make a difference and some day maybe you'll have little ones of your own to love and cherish. Just know you are not alone and if you ever need an ear for listening, e-mail me. I am here for you and I care.

Answer 3

Second born

Answer 4

When you get to the place to forge on in life regardless of your sad past,(Which you have and I commend you for that), when you get to help others go through the loneliness of living, when you have given hope to others who thought everything was hopeless,when you have put a smile on someones day because you were kind to them, it is only then you will know there was a reason why you were born. The injustice your parents, or what may other people have done to you, is not for you to fall into but rather a stepping stone to make you a stronger person. And as long as you will maintain humility and love in your heart, you will be fine.

Answer 5

You are what you think you are...if you think you are not as "good" as a child who was wanted and cherished and loved by it's parent's then that's who you will be. There's a quote " A man is what he thinks about all day long."

I'm sorry that your parents treated you so poorly, but now is the time for you to heal from the past and decide your own future. Why do you choose to define yourself and your worth based on what they did?

You can be, do and have whatever you want...it's all up to you.

You attract to yourself every situation, circumstance, person based on your thoughts and feelings. Your life is what you THINK it is. Read "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne.

To help heal your depression learn EFT (emotional freedom technique or emotional tapping). Go to emofree.com and download the free manual.

Answer 6

You sound like a person who has risen above your beginnings. Of course you are sad that your family treated you like that --that is a normal way to feel.

But --YOU are NOT responsible for the way they acted. They had problems before you came along. You are every bit as "good" as a person in better circumstances.
In fact, you have the potential to be an even better person because of all you have been thru.

Many people were born into horrible circumstances and were able to overcome that and go on to great things. Look at Oprah Winfrey.

Please continue with your therapy. You deserve the best life you can make for yourself.

Answer 7

Thats so awful. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. No one knows why they are here but just know that if you didn't have a reason for being here, you wouldn't be here. You do have a purpose and you'll figure it out. You've done more with yourself than alot of people who had parents and a family have done with themselves. You're someone children in foster care can look up to. Have you ever thought of trying to reach out to kids in foster care? You have more going for you than you know. Take care and don't give up on yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

You were born for a reson, your a strong person, you will always be sad inside but you will go far, you have bettered yourself, write in a journal about your feelings even so write a letter like you were addressing it to your mom and dad when your done burn it or throw it away, do it a few times it may help..

Answer 9

You should stop thinking." why was i ever born" . I know that its a question that you need an answer to, but thinking that makes you all miserable and makes you feel unwanted.And you can still be as good as a child who is loved and cherished by their parents, you can.

Answer 10

I am so happy all that stuff happen to you. I've seen some of the answers that you gave to some people and you were a b itch. Someone asked about an actor and you said it was your dog. Then you wonder why no one wants you. You deserve to be sad and depressed. Good for you.