Lose weight 1st or meet him while chunky ?

Question

I have been a very bad girl.
I know a guy online who I told repeatedly i would meet.
But Ive been trying to lose weight first (im 12-14 right now)
He is very disappointed that I keep putting him off.
He thinks Im like size 8-9.
Should I just meet him as I am or wait another month until Im thinner?
Im going nuts (I know its my own fault)

Answer 1

you shouldnt have to change urself.........but if u lied...just tell the truth.
i would be weary going to meet some guy u dont know...be very careful, make sure you go with a group of friends!!!!!

Answer 2

Do some kind of group thing. Whether it's a summer soccer team, a walking/jogging club or a class, working out with other people is ALWAYS more fun. Do you have a dog? Take him/her for walks. Maybe offer to take the neighbours if you don't, or even just walk along with them. A dog ALWAYS appreciates a good walk, and being loved on by one is fun. Is there an active thing you've always wanted to try but never have? Now's the time! Horseback riding is great... trotting a horse is the same as a combination walk/jog and galloping is the same as a full-out jog. You can often trade stable work for reduce fees on your ride... and burn more calories doing so! Rock climbing, kayaking, and hiking are all something you can find if you have a nearby state park and can be done for relatively cheap. If you live near water, swimming is one of the best ways to burn calories easily while having fun. Go to the beach with friends and spend as much time in the water as tanning and it'll do more than you'd think!

Answer 3

first things first, did you tell him you were slim? or did he assume you are?
Second if the guy is interested in you and you have been honest then it shouldn't matter to him if you are a 12.
And if you are usually the size you are now then he should meet you as you are because even if you loose the weight what if you gain it back.
Tell the guy you would love to meet him but you are nervous that he may not like how you look, and you like having his friendship,
more than likely looks aren't that important to him since he has been talking to you on line

Answer 4

I think you should tell him your real size and let the cards fall as they may. Because if your only motivation to lose the weight is for this guy, I'm pretty sure you'll put it all back on in time. The only time people lose weight and keep it off is when they want to do it for themselves and are ready to change their entire lifestyle. If you were going to lose the weight and keep it off, I'd say wait until you lose it to meet him, but I doubt that is the situation.

Answer 5

well honesty is the best policy

if a relationship starts off in non honesty
then chances are this relationship might not be too healthy

im not downing u guys because i feel that you can change around anything if u want to bad enough

but at the same time u should be totally honest with this person
if he is judging u off of looks then hmmm he might be not the right person

u have to love and like someone for who they are

about the weight thing if u met him when ur bigger then if he likes u then, then well he will only like u smaller

but dont get comfortable because if u want to lose that weight alot of people get lazy when they are with someone

if u r happy with urself then stay the way u are

if u want to lose weight then do it

"YOU HAVE TO WANT IT"

just think of what u want to do

Answer 6

To tell you the truth it is better to find out what he is really like so go on and meet him!I am a 12-14 and have been trying to make me better too!Look if he can't except you the way that you arethen he really isn't worth keeping anyways!You should just be honest and tell him why you told him different!You were affraid of being rejected right!
So do what is right,be honest and check out the goods for your self!You can be awesome and be a size12-14!
I bet you are one of those people so keep your chin up and do what is right,be honest!

Answer 7

guess you are learning the hard way that lying never pays off.

he probably won't care how much you weight or what size clothing you wear, but he will be upset if he finds out that you lied about anything. has he seen pics of you yet? will you be that much of a difference from what he is expecting?

i'd go ahead and meet him, and if he says anything, just tell him that you gained a little weight over the holiday season, and hopefully that will get you off the hook..

Answer 8

Why change your appearance for someone. If you're happy with yourself then you have nothing to worry about. If you want to lose weight, do it for yourself not for some guy. If he's expecting someone smaller than he initially thought, then tell him straight up.
Being a size bigger or two, doesn't change your personality.

If he's expecting you, then just be you. Size 12, size 6, it's doesn't matter. It doesn't make you less of a person.

Answer 9

If he likes you 2 pants sizes aren't going to make the difference. If it does he is shallow. The real question is why did you feel the need to lie about 2 freggin sizes? In most women that is only about 20 pounds! Sheesh.

Answer 10

do you look like you are in shape ... i dont care when i see a big girl or a small one as long as it looks like they take care of themselves cuz generally thats the kind of girl you want to be with. and if you told him you are a size 8 9 ... well you might wanna come clean if he just assumed its his fault. one more thing if its under 10-15 pounds the guy wont notice a difference unless you are a really small woman like under 5' 2"