my bf hangs out with his friends every weekend. way more than he hangs out with me... I'm getting really jealous and he knows it. but he just won't change his ways. he told me that he hates to plan things ahead. but then i would never be able to hang out with him, since for some reason, his friends are always over. i don't know what to do! help! i feel like he is taking me for granted. We've been together for 3 years, so i know him pretty well. like he loves to hang out with his friends. but he use to make time for me too. but now things are diffrent. what should I do to win him back from his friends?
2007-01-05 10:31:56 · 18 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you should love him the way he is but if this problem is really bothering you try asking him if you could come with him once and a while with his friends cause you are his girlFRIEND and have a talk with him and tell him you want to have some time with him. If he doesn't want to spend time with you he isn't worth your time.
2007-01-05 10:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure to tell/remind him how you feel. Because even though he knows apparently, he might just forget constantly or actually not know.
Then, if you have to plan things in advance, just make a mental note of a day he doesn't have anything going on (which from what is sounds like, shouldn't be too hard) and then call him the afternoon of the day before and tell him the two of you should hang out the next day. If that's "too much notice" (^.^) then make sure to call the evening of the day before, instead.
2007-01-05 18:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking you for granted because he knows you will always be available. Instead of waiting by the phone for him to call you, why don't you go out and do things of your own with your friends. This may either be the definitive in your relation. He will either start making time for you, or he may just chose his friends over you completely. If so, then you will know that the love you once had, may have diminished all together.
2007-01-05 18:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't win him back, make him jealous. Hang out with your friends and he will want you back. But if you don't want to do that then just have a little talk about you guys not hanging out.
2007-01-05 18:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sercet Person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen how to lose a guy in 10 days? if you have don't do any of the stuff she does, that will really turn him off. But try making yourself seem more valuable, like when he wants to hang out with you, say you're busy and go do something (with some friends not him or another guy) and then try hanging out with him and his friends (just don't get clingy.
2007-01-05 18:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by BMW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, his friends aren't "ruining" your relationship. Your boyfriend is ruining your relationship because he no longer wants to spend as much time with you. This is a choice that he has made all by himself. Maybe he feels that he just needs to do some fun stuff with just the guys. The guys aren't forcing him to do this, it's your boyfriend's choice. Maybe he just doesn't want to spend as much time as a couple anymore. You can't "win him back" from his friends. You need to talk to him and see where his head is at. Find out if he still wants to spend time with you. This isn't about him and his friends, its about you and him and your relationship. Leave his friends out of the discussion.
2007-01-05 18:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In My Opinion you two will break up eventually cause he is showing less interest in you and wont keep his part going. You Can Break It off Now and See what happens. Tell Him Ur Feeling *really Unappreciated* and if he comes back good but only good if its for the right reasons like real like and love not for action and pleasure for himself. Good Luck =)
2007-01-05 18:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by ATMAFIA09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you hang out during weekdays? Try making some sort of compromise. Three years is a long time to be together.
2007-01-05 18:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he used to make time for you but now he doesnt tha could mean somethin is up...try talkin to him bout how your feeling or go out with your gf's and ignore him, see what happens. Good luck!
2007-01-05 18:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gurl if those wer really your frends du u think they will get in between ur relationship. think if u think hes really worth it go for it and tell ur frends how u feel n hope for tha best. also listen to wat ur frendsgotta say maybe they know something u dont if there is more than 3 gurls complainin sometin has 2 be up wit dis dude but if yall r in luv stik wit it n take ur frends opinions into consideration iight ur homie,.
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2007-01-05 18:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by singlebabe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋