I have been so aggrivated with my daughter lately for not listening and whining a lot (she is 6). My father told me he is going to take her tonight to his house (for her to visit overnight, she does that once in a while) Well, I am so excited about her going because it will give me a little bit bit of a break (my husband to). My son is staying here with us (he is 1), but her going will at least give us a little bit of a break. I am really happy, but on the other hand I feel guilty about being happy that she is going. Should I feel guilty?
2007-01-05 10:30:08 · 20 answers · asked by Billys girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a mom I understand how frustrating children can be. So you have a fussy 6 yr old and Grandpa coming to get his precious granddaughter to spend quality time is a good thing. Yes you need a break and it is ok to be relieved that your daughter is going to a safe place to spend a nice time with her grandparents. Now if you are like giddy then yes you should feel ashamed that you are glad that your girl is gone. They only stay little for a short time and please enjoy your children before they become all grown up. I am now the proud grandmother of a lovely 4 month old baby boy and it was almost yesterday when he was born. Time slips by before you know it. Hug them , love them, and guide them.
2007-01-05 10:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Nan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel guilty. Child-rearing is tiring both emotionally and physically. Every parent needs a break now and then! You are fortunate that your children have a loving grandparent who wants to take your daughter! Not everyone is that lucky, by the way.
While your daughter is at your dad's, it might be a good idea to think about why you get so aggravated w/her and how to improve things. Whining and not listening can be annoying. But they can also be solved. Brainstorm ways in which you can help your daughter improve her behavior.
But also enjoy your "time off."
2007-01-05 18:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lisa, do not feel bad for wanting/ needing a break. Be thankful you have someone to give you one.
You are a good mother to know both you and your daughter need a break from each other. she is having fun, enjoying herself, and you get some too.
sometimes our kids can be trying on us, and we get tired and aren't as understanding as we should be. you are in need of some TLC time with hubby. Enjoy! :) you will be a better mom when you are not feeling so edgy and overwhelmed .
2007-01-05 18:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Everyone needs a change in life. That is why we go to the movies and vacations. Just for an hour of change, or even a couple days of change. Your daughter will treat it like an adventure. And it will be GREAT for grandfather. Count your lucky stars. My wife's parents have NEVER had our son over to their house, for any reason.
He is adopted. Not blood....
2007-01-05 18:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pft. As a child I know I can be a spoiled brat. We all do one day.
Sometimes parents just need time away from their kids to grow as people and to take care of them better. Its only natural. Don't you spend time away from your husband? You'd go bonkers if you were together 24/7. Everyone needs a break once in a while from those they love. We all need our own personal space and air.
2007-01-05 18:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.Feeling guilty doesn't mean you don't love her anymore.
Take some parenting classes or get a book on parenting.sounds like the 6 year old has found some of your buttons and is pushing them.(After all,thats her job as a 6 year old and she's doing a good job!)Find as class or get a book or both.
2007-01-05 18:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mark K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a normal parent reaction. My son goes to his dad's house every other weekend and I look forward to those weekends cause as you said, you get a break. Don't feel guilty.
2007-01-05 18:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldent sometimes we need a break, breaks are good. I have a 20 mth old going through terrible 2's already so i feel you
2007-01-05 18:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean you love her any less. Everybody is entitled to a break once in awhile. No need to feel guilty at all.
2007-01-05 18:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to answer your question because I have the same problem with my 4 year old son. I wouldn't feel too bad though. After all, she is with someone that she is safe with.
2007-01-05 18:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋