ok well me and my bf have been together 4 IDK how long I think a month or soemthing, I luv him dearly and more then anything but we r slowly drifting apart that plus the long distance is killing me and every time I want to break up with him something happens that makes me wanna cry like the last time I was about 2 he wrote a song 4 me and played it on u tube and said I hope u like it because it's all about you and more recently he sent me an e-mail saying he can't live without me so if I throw his heart back make sure I kill him (figure of speech I think), so then I just couldn't do it cuz I didn't want 2 hurt him. Plz how am I supposto deal with this? what's wrong with me? and if I did break up with him would it hurt him? I'm not rele sure of anythign as you can see so I need help. And also why can't I bring myself 2 just say I want 2 be friends? It's like when I dont' talk 2 him I don't feel anythign but when I do my heart beats. Help I"m confused.
2007-01-05 10:28:07 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like I used 2 tell him how I felt and everything but now I don't and we tal less and less (partyl cuz we have lives lol) but now sometimes we wont' even say I luv u b4 we end a conversation. That y I feel like we're drifting apart and it confuses me as well.
2007-01-05 10:40:18 · update #1
**** now he just sent me an IM saying hi hun argh I feel bad again plz help.
2007-01-05 10:53:20 · update #2
he luvs u. you luv him to really deep. just follow ur heart that won't stop beating every time u see him.
2007-01-05 10:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a long distance relation ship as I understand from your message, I strongly suggest that you break up with him and start dating other guys.
You are probably too young to get committed to such a passionate guy. Guys who are like this have no idea about live and relationships. In general, guys who show so much emotion will in the end break your heart, because they cant handle that extreme for a long time. Meaning, if he is now soo crazy in love with you, it will not last for long. You will be better off with a guy who is showing affection at a constant rate for a long period of time. But those guys are the ones that you should marry.
Now, however, is the time to have fun and date, so dump him and go out on a date with someone different.
Hope that helped.
2007-01-05 18:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Seb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its only been a month and if your thinking about breaking up with him then maybe you should. I personally don't think that long distance relationships work and thats probably why you guys are drifting apart. I used to feel the same way you did with my ex. It was hard for me to break up with him because I was scared that I would hurt him and I felt like I was all he had. But you can't make yourself stay in a relationship because your scared of hurting him. You sound like you still like this guy and its still pretty brand new. Maybe give it a couple of more months to see what happens and if you still feel like breaking up with him..then do it.
2007-01-05 18:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love makes us do crazy things. we feel things that we don't usually feel when we are not in love. we become overly sensitive.
i understand the long distance thingy. i know how hard it is to keep a relationship when this person is so far away. it takes time and dedication. its very easy to drift apart. one wrong move and it seems like the relationship will come to an end.
there is nothing wrong with you, but i think you have to be fair to yourself and your feelings. no one knows how you feel better than yourself. if you feel like its just time to be friends, then its only fair to let him know. yes, he will probably hurt for a while, but you will you. being friends might be easier than keeping this relationship and pretending that the love that is suppose to be there is really there. good luck!
2007-01-05 18:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by belle t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a drama queen, and you need to grow a spine. Plus this whole "relationship" is all long distance anyway, so not even a real life thing. Just tell him it's over already, and forget about the "staying friends" cop-out while you're at it. He'll get over it, he'll move on, and so will you.
2007-01-05 18:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
calm down. this relationship clearly does not work for you and you are staying in it out of guilt. He is not what you want and he is putting your life on hold, you sound miserable and unhappy, and you must understand that you cannot be responsible for someones else happiness. very simple. you e-mail this guy and you tell him it's over. then YOU CUT ALL TIES. if you do not respond to any phone calls or e-mails he will move on.
2007-01-05 18:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dont say the word LOVE cuz u two are not even close to it..i noe it might be hard but hey its what ever is best for you..so stay friends long term relationships usually end up in chaos
2007-01-05 18:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by cole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it basiclly ur confused about? i had the same type of butterflys so to speak bc mine being longdistance but how do u feel like ur drifing apart? however i married my long distance realtionship but good luck to u but always rember this a heart wont lie
2007-01-05 18:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just don't want to hurt him, but believe me if you continue to think of other peoples feelings being more important then your own you will grow up and have the same problems over and over. Just be honest and be happy.
2007-01-05 18:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him wait for him you'll be together eventually just try and chat with him as much as possible on the phone on the internet wherever and whenever you can.
2007-01-05 18:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋