i met this guy online a few months ago. We've been talking alot the last few weeks. He's been really sweet, he even sends me text messages just to say good morning, or sweet dreams, or to ask how my day is going. It's a long distance thing, haven't met him yet. We've planned to meet in February. He's not my boyfriend, but we've both said that we won't have any sexual relations with others at least until we meet.
Today i discovered his MySpace page.... and I kinda wished I hadn't. It's full of messages from slutty looking chicks. 1 girl left a message saying "I enjoyed our beautiful weekend together", and it was dated a few days ago. On this girls page, she calls him "my future sexy love". And he knows these girls, these girls have pics of themselves with him on their pages, some were from new years eve.
I feel betrayed, but then, he's not my boyfriend. Is this just "the game"? and if I want to get to know him, I got to play the game?
2007-01-05 10:26:24 · 12 answers · asked by who-wants-to-know 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could ask him upfront what he's done with these girls. You both agreed to no sexual relations, did you also agree to the stuff above? And maybe you both define sexual relations differently. I'd at least talk to him about it before jumping to conclusions. But if you don't trust him or want to play "the game" drop him for someone else.
2007-01-05 10:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, What was your first feeling? You felt betrayed didn't you? You stated that you both agreed to not have any sexual relations with others until you met. My opinion is kick the dirt bag to the curb and don't look back! Boyfriend or not, the two of you entered an agreement to sustain from sex with others and he did not comply. He is a lair and not worth the time. It is guys like him that make it harder for the rest of us to even get a chance at nice girls.
2007-01-05 18:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by james4678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a total player so what you should do depends on what you want...if you are looking for a relationship, find someone else closer to home, your not the only girl he is talkin to and sending sweet msgs to, if you are only after friendship, which i doubt cause you wouldnt have felt 'betrayed' then go ahead and meet him, just dont sleep with him tho cause he probably been all over town
2007-01-05 18:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you that you prefer to meet on line. The advice I will give you is that you may have a better chance of evaluating a person behavior and personality in a controlled environment and cyber space is not a controlled environment.
2007-01-05 18:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a player. Why would you even want to play the game? You deserve better than that. I'd reconsider meeting him.
2007-01-05 18:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trash!! Even the biggest manwhore I know doesn't have that many comments from girls talking about their nights together! Don't even bother.
2007-01-05 18:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a player and he is trying to make you the next notch on the bed post.
2007-01-05 18:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by big stan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run girl, run! This guy is great trash, and watch your step next time with computer darlings.
2007-01-05 18:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep..he's very much a player.
If you wanna play, then play, but don't be hurt if he just wants to keep it just that.
2007-01-05 18:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by donna_nova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trash. I wouldn't waste another minute on him.
2007-01-05 18:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋