She's a whiny little BRAT, and makes every nerve in my body hurt.
2007-01-05 10:22:37 · 15 answers · asked by Aggrevated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello, first of all she wasn't born into this world being a BRAT. Her personality was formed for her. Her environment as a small child laid the foundation for the actions that she now has. Down deep inside of this child you could/will find a daughter that you can love and enjoy. You must start with your self first. You will need a specialist in child rearing. Your family doctor is the first person you should discuse this with You need to bring your feelings to the table. Don't sugar coat your words with the doctor. Also this is a two part problem. You must be strong to help your self and the next is to bring your partner/mother into this counseling.
This is so very important,it will be a joint workshop where both of you "must work together and keep UNIFORMITY A PRIORITY."
2007-01-05 11:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? Most small children are whiney and bratty, they can't help it. I know that dealing with step-children is difficult even in the best of circumstances but you have to be the adult and be the mature one. You're statement, while I'm sure it's honest, makes you sound well, less than mature. Please think back to when you were a kid, how would you feel if your parent was going to marry someone that thought you were a whiney little brat - please be nice to this girl even though she drives you nuts. Honestly, you should see a counselor about this. It will affect your life and hers and your marriage. I don't know how you stop feeling that way but you need to figure it out before you get married for everyone's sake.
2007-01-05 18:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about to come into a family. Think long and hard before you do this. Like it or not they were a unit before you and if you can't contribute to that unity, then bow out gracefully. Maybe she is a whiny brat, then again maybe it is you bringing that out in her. Remember there are at least 2 sides to everything. Talk to the parent of this child about what you think and feel, in a polite way.
I am serious about if you can't contribute to the unity of that pre-existing family. My father's wife has done everything in her power to sabotage the relationships we had with him. Because of her never respecting the family unit she married into, in the course of 9 years of her manipulations one of my sisters moved several states away, my brother has severe emotional problems and at the age of 23 he has over 40 ulcers, and I can't be around her without wanting to pummel her face in.
2007-01-05 18:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by sarcasm_gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding! this whiny brat will be living with you and her mother and since you already have issues with her its going to get alot worse. If her mother is a decient mother you and her will be fighting soon over the way you are treating her daughter.Because if her mother is like I am about my daughter we are a packaged deal no her no me.
Besides I have to wonder who is the adult you are whining now.
have you tried to be kind and understanding? those traits go a long way
2007-01-05 19:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by kathy h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either find something that you both have in common and build a relationship on that, or you run as fast as you can to get out of this relationship. If you think that you can't stand her now and don't anticipate a good relationship, let me assure you things will only get worse when you get married. Either your future mate will take the daughter's side, which isn't fair to you, or they will take your side, which isn't fair to the daughter. It sounds to me by your description of the situation that you're being self centered and the best thing for everybody is for you to run.
2007-01-05 18:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kermit Toad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mother and daughter come as a package deal. If that is the way you feel then dont marry the mother.If you love her then you will work at the relationship with the daughter.The daughter has issues too you know with her mum remarrying.Give the girl timeand attention.
2007-01-05 18:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, you shouldn't even consider marrying him. Let's face it, if he is any kind of father, you will be the loser if you make him choose between you and his daughter.
He deserves to have a woman in his life that wil love his daughter as much as he does.... but not you.
And the little girl don't deserve it either.
You suffer from a disease called..."Wicked Step Mom Syndrome"
2007-01-05 18:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is truly the way you feel you may want to reconsider marrying her mother. They come as a package deal, you don't get to pick and choose. Remember she has been with her mother longer than you have.
Family counseling can help, but consider that it may be you that needs the help, and it may be you that has unreasonable expectations.
2007-01-05 18:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Clare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who are you going to marry the step daughter or the father. she probablyan 8 year old go and do stuff with her she probably misses her real mum, thats more than mikely why she is bieng a brat to you, you need to do stuff whith her and the new family, go to a park and play there. go to an amusement park. have fun xD
2007-01-05 18:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by luckydo6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All truths aside, perhaps she thinks you're a whiny brat too!
Give it time.
2007-01-05 18:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋