this stuff always hapens in the mall. i dont know if its common with other couples
2007-01-05 10:06:18 · 43 answers · asked by Meditator 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like she is insecure with your relationship then... with me and my man not only do we encourage each other to look.. (seems to me that a trusting relationship isn't about being forced to be with and look at just one person but in seeing all the other people and chosing to be with your mate ) but half the time we point out other people for each other..ok that sounds strange i know but i have no problem walking with my man and saying , "wow did you see her "... its perfectly natural to look and i freely allow mine to... HE KNOWS THE LINE THOUGH and thats that the first time he touches will be the last time he sees his fingers OR ANYTHING ELSE THAT WAS USED attached to his body!! Again its a trust thing though ..i trust my man and he has proven worthy of that trust.. (and no were not swingers or anything either)
2007-01-05 11:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by crystal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually you guys weren't dating when she slept with that guy. you were f*%$ buddies. She told you because she has feelings for you and was feeling guilty. She evidently does hate deceit because she did tell you. When you guys first got together you had a girlfriend with an "open relationship" . After a month and a half and a breakup with open girl, you slept with her for a week. So being together for a total of about 9 days she was supposed to know you were exclusive? How? When should she have told you, the night she got back? Should she have called you when she finished with the guy? Has she ever been in an "open relationship" before so that she knows the rules? I think that after being with you for 7 months she saw that you would be faithful to her and wanted to tell you what happened. Grow up! You want honesty you got it, now you have to live with it. She tried to erase it by making love to you on the spot where she fukd him. Do you know the difference? Get over your butt hurt hoaring around self or leave.
2016-05-23 07:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your girl "look" or "stear" at these guys. This may make all the difference. I do not feel it is okay for your girl to look at other guys, while you can't look at other girls. Tell her your issue. Tell her that if she looks at guys you can look at girls. Take charge. She probably thinks that when you look at these girls you are imagining having sex with them. this may or may not be the case. But what is she thinking when she looks at these guys? She may be lustful too.
2007-01-05 10:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by charity16sand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an unfair double standard.
If she thinks it's ok for her to look at guys but not for you to look at girls, try throwing a big, loud tantrum next time she does it.
I actually think it's very rude for either sex to be checking out someone else when they're with their S.O. but different strokes...
But it should at least be the same standard for both of you.
2007-01-05 10:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a double standard but some women feel that a man can't control his urges and a innocent stare will turn into something more where as a woman will just look and that will be all.
2007-01-05 10:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by simply_ch0c0late 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be ok for her to look at other guys if you can't look at other girl! I see no problem with my boyfriend looking at other girls...... just cuz your on a diet, don't mean you can't look at the menu! LOL!!! I think this may be something that you want to bring up in a conversation.... or maybe it's not worth possibly fighting about and just let it go.... either don't look at other girls or don't get caught! Good luck!
2007-01-05 10:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Double G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rules are the same both ways. It's really rude for either pertner to "stare" at a member of the opposite sex. Everyone probably looks. But, dude, keep it brief and don't dwell on it or "stare". That's just rude! :-)
2007-01-05 10:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not okay. The two of you have to come to some sort of an agreement on what's okay between the two of you and what's not. Don't be bullied into thinking what's good for one is not good for the other. That's BS. If she can look, so can you. But if you demand she stops you must stop too.
2007-01-05 10:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you can't stare and she is looking. So make up your mind, are you looking or staring?
If she is looking is she staring? If you are staring is that looking?
Stare - To look directly and fixedly, often with a wide-eyed gaze for a long enough time for others to notice.
Look - To turn one's glance or gaze briefly.
Both of you should be aloud to look, but don't stare because it's rude in our culture. If you live in Italy, then staring is the norm when you see someone attractive.
2007-01-05 10:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its normal and we are human its gonna happen it doesnt mean that we are going to bed with every beautiful woman we see as well as for the ladies it something you have to be good and smooth at know what Im saying if it means keepiing it a peaceful relationship
2007-01-05 10:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by amliera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋