I met my girlfriend after she just got out of a long term relationship.I love her very deeply. I treat her like she is the number #1 thing in my life. We speak daily just to see how each other is doing, due to our schedules we see each other once a week. Now I have a new position that will allow me more time to spend with her in the future. I have told her how I feel about her and how much I like and love her. I have cooked her dinner, made surprise visits to see her for lunch at her job, given her flowers just because I want to. Yet she sees me as treating her as a friend and not a girlfriend. What else can I do to show her that she is my girlfriend?
2007-01-05 10:02:52 · 15 answers · asked by mrniceguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I started getting to know her about a year ago and we have been dating for 9 months
2007-01-05 10:09:19 · update #1
back off a little and let her see what she is missing without you
2007-01-05 10:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's use to having guys treat her poorly. I don't know what else you can do, you tell her how you lover her, you cook for her, surprise her at lunch, give her flowers, etc. I don't know what else it is that she wants. So ask her what she wants. That's the only way to find out what her needs are and communication is really important.
2007-01-05 18:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your first sentence - - - - - "she just got out of a long term relationship." In all probability, she is not ready for another relationship yet because of the deep pain she still has. Give her time, treat her nice, and above ------ DO NOT PRESSURE her. Give her time to get over the "long term relationship" she just got of. She is probably afraid of getting hurt again. Be patient.
2007-01-05 18:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a very nice person n clearly u care for her.. so all u need to do is get frank... ask her if she knws how u feel about her. thn let her knw in clear words tht u care a lot about her n love her n think of u as a gf!.... honestly given the thngs u do, i wud think she shud knw u love her............ perhaps the thng is she needs time to get over the past!.......... if she has not been giving signs tht she doesnt want u to b more than a frnd... thn i think she likes u........... so talk to her.. n let her b alone for a while so tht she can give a shot to something new!
2007-01-05 18:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention that she just got over a long relationship I do not think she is ready for a new one. Seems to me that she is on the rebound you are doing so much for her already what does she want you to do next stand on your head! My advice is to move on forget her if she really cares for you she will come after you, and ask you” how high do you want ME TO JUMP”!
2007-01-05 18:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg she thinks ur treating her just as a friend. she must be crazy. i would kill 4 my boyfriend 2 do that 4 me. if she didnt get the hint then do somtin really special. find out what her dream date would be. try ur best to make it come true. only if it can fit in ur budget. but make it as special as possible. like on valentines day. surprise her wit it. she might think its just one like u did befor make it seem like dat but shell be amazed when shes seen what uv done. shell have to say she loves u. good luck
2007-01-05 18:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Caesar Chica is Sweet : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes not ready for a serious relationship yet, you said you just met her when se came out of a long realtionship, and it takes time to trust someone again.
2007-01-05 18:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off a little and see if she misses you. i had a guy once that was right out of a story book but it was too much all the time, back off and see how many times she calls you it will be interesting at best~
2007-01-05 18:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by pa625 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your Mr. Rebound... it's cool you're trying to show her what a differnt, devoted guy you are... but at the same time sounds like you need to give her some room to breathe... if you don't want to get dumped step back... give her some space... but make it clear why you are stepping back... Sometimes in the enthusiasm of a new relationship we forget that there are two perspectives... try to see it her way
2007-01-05 18:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold her hand, look her right in the eyes, and tell her how happy you are that you met, and that you hope to grow old with her, but be carefull, she might not be ready for deep love yet, thier are stages of love, she might still be on the fence, if she is, don't push her or she will fall
2007-01-05 18:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by josh f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you do these things for you like her and want her as a girlfriend
2007-01-05 18:04:53 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋