Did she make a fake order of protection? help.?

Question

ok my mom said that she made a order of protection against someone i know. but i couldnt tell them. or she would know that i told them that she was doing that. they didnt do anything to me. i mean we like sneeked out when my mom wasnt their. but thats about it. and now she has every1 watching out for us. but can she really do this to me? can i defend my self even though shes my mother and im 17 and they are 18? what should i do?

Answer 1

You cant really do anything until you are legally an adult (18). that's not much longer so why not wait. if you two really love each other. Its not long at all.

Answer 2

Order of protection? That's a restraining order, or something similar, right?

It depends on the laws in your state or city. But, since you are a minor and apparently living at home, she does have that right. She would have to offer some evidence that they were a 'suspicious character'.

The cops and courts aren't real big on disrupting teenage romance or friendship.

But you shouldn't be sneaking out of the house when your mom isn't there, either.

From the way it sounds -- 'Don't tell them, or I'll know you told' -- kind of makes it sound like she doesn't have a real order out against this individual. Also, if there is a legal document, generally, the person who the order is against is served a copy.

Otherwise, how are they gonna know they have to stay away from you? It's a legal document, and therefore sort of a matter of public record.

Answer 3

Well, if you really want some advice... then read this closely. First, because of your grammar and spelling mistakes, you need to concentrate on your school work. You should be nearing the end of high school at 17, so there's not much time left to get on the path to becoming an intelligent and productive adult. So, find a career path and start studying to get to that goal. Second, your friend would know that there is a restraining order against him. Your mom would have had to go through the court system and he would have had to appear before a judge, or at least receive a summons. In either case, you should TRUST your mother. She wouldn't go to such an extreme if not wanting to protect you. And you're a little bit too old to be sneaking around aren't you? I'm not trying to be mean... I'm honestly trying to be helpful.

Answer 4

Didn't you ask this before?

Your mother can get an order of protection against an adult who "sneaks off" with a minor! Technically that is against the law and is called "Interference with the Custody of a minor"!

You can wait until you turn 18, or you can use a front door approach where you all have an understanding what can and can't happen!

Answer 5

until you are 18, technically yes she can. it sounds like it *might* be a bluff on her part. the courts won't give a restraining order without probable cause, and sneaking out with someone who is only 1-12 months older than you probably wouldn't be considered probable cause. check out your local curfew laws. they will tell you what time you are allowed to be out at night without adult supervision. if you were not out past the allotted curfew restrictions, then you were not in violation of any *legal* restrictions (though your parents can restrict your actions) and therefore it is very unlikely that the courts would give a restraining order against a person just because you violated your parents rules, unless she can prove that the 18 year old provided you with illegal substances. if sex of any kind were involved, you can also check the statutory rape laws in your area to see if those were violated. bottom line is that no court would file a restraining order without there being a clear and present threat to your safety.
my advice would be to just ride it out for the next however many months until your are 18.