2007-01-05 10:02:31 · 39 answers · asked by strwberri81 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Do whatever you think is best for yourself and your baby. He is obviously pressuring you because he knows that his wife will find out about his cheating if you have this kid. I don't want to get into a debate about abortion, but you should never get an abortion to protect a cheating husband from being caught!
2007-01-05 10:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bodie 2 · 10⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. When I was 19 I was engaged to be married, so I wound up pregnant simply because back then they didn't know that the pill is less effective if you are taking certain antibiotics. Ok, I was feeling funny, went to the doctor, he told me it was just stress. WRONG. To make a long story short, the doctor misdiagnosed me and I had an etopic pregnancy. I almost died. I really wanted that child. Sadly, in my case, I had to have an abortion and lost a tube as a result. I had no choice. That was 20 years ago and it took me 5 years to even look at babies, clothes, go to showers. I have a son, he was born a month premature, but he's here. I always think about the big brother or sister he could have had. Think this through before you do anything. Good luck (((((hugs)))))
2007-01-05 10:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is not about what he wants. Put that right uot of your head. This character was insensitive enough to lie to you about being married and now he wants you to abort your child. Just forget him he is not worth considering. This is your decision to make and only yours.
I have pretty strong views on this myself so I'm not going to say here what they are because this is your decisiion and you are the one who will have to live with the results of it whatever you do.
However here is a little advice for either case.
1. If you decide to have an abortion, make him pay for it and every other thing you can think of and MAKE SURE HIS WIFE KNOWS ALL ABOUT IT.
2. If you choose to have your baby, tell him you are having an abortion and then move away so you never see him again. This is to protect you aganist custody attacks later on. Just in case, it's a sensible precaution.
Take your time on the decision. Remember whichever way you choose, you will be living with it for the rest of your life. No it isn't fair.
Good luck and whatever you decide I pray that it turns out well for you.
2007-01-05 10:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by TC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you have the money to support your baby alone without him and know that you can, i would keep my baby. But if you are asking this question you know what you want and if you feel that this will get messy and stressful abortion maybe the way to go. But i would keep my child or speak with the wife like a woman or leave him alone and do whats best for you and your child because i wish i had a better baby daddy that a part time daddy for my child and it will hurt your child and you when you have half a daddy in her life.
2007-01-05 11:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tamika F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punch him in the face and say HELL no!!! We made this baby so we will raise this baby!!! (gurl and if he dont help you raise the innocent child by yourself and forget about that man) You will feel better at the end when you dont give up on your child!
and murder is a sin if you kill the baby you are a muderr KEEP THE BABY
aborting a baby does not make you les of a mom it just makes you a mom of a unborn baby!!! and trust me if you abort the baby you will feel guilty forever!!
2007-01-05 10:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by thnksfrthmmrs92 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is only a decison you can make..he is not going to be there for you after you have the abortion..he can go on living his married life while you are in agony over killing this baby and losing him b/c trust me he is not going to stick around, while you are going to think abou it every day he won't be....after all he owes you nothing he is married and has another life outside of you....he is not showing you any respect..does he want you to have an abortion so his wife does not find out when you try and collect child support from him??? Show your self some respect!!! Show your body some respect...if you really want this baby go for it..but do not expect anyhting from him at all...know you are going to be a single parent.....you can love this baby by yourself...it is a tough road so think long and hard....I wish you the best of luck....
2007-01-05 10:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Bodie, personally I don't think you should have an abortion (no just b.c I don't believe in it but he is pressuring you) That's wrong that he didn't tell you he was married, do what you think is right, with or without him. If you don't want to keep it, adopt it I know many want to be parents that would love to adopt a child (myself included) please don't abort it. If you want to raise it, go after him for child support, even if he is married. His wife should know, and she should dump his sorry self
2007-01-05 10:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No man is worth killing your child for. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't ask you to take your baby's life and risk your physical and emotional health in the process. None of your circumstances are your baby's fault. He or she did not ask to be conceived and does not deserve to die. Your baby is the only one who is totally innocent in all of this. If you need some help doing the right thing, take a look at this:
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http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
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Remember, the father will be legally obligated to provide child support whether he likes it or not. He is being selfish, but you need to be strong and protect your baby and yourself regardless. don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Your baby is depending on you. Please don't do something you'll regret the rest of your life.
2007-01-05 13:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable having an abortion, then DON'T. If you are, then that's your decision. You do not need to man to raise a child. Plenty of children have been raised by single mothers and turned out just fine. Either way, you should join a support group.
2007-01-05 10:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart and what is best for you. Really think about it and what YOU want. Don't have an abortion because he wants you too. Having an affair was his mistake, don't make it yours. But if you want to have an abortion that is up to you...but don't let others, especially the babies father make the decision for you, because he obviously does not have decent judgment.
2007-01-05 10:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by wartytoadjody39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋