My ex liked to play kinky games where we would slap each other in the bedroom.
I know i sound like a jerk, but here's what she did: she didn't take my dog to the vet when it was supposed to get its heart worms shot, and wouldn't you know it she didn't tell me. So then the dog gets heart worms a month later and she's like "Oh yeah I'm sorry i forgot to take him i had to meet some friends" and then I raised my hand and she started laughing at me as if she didn't think I would do it, then I went to the bathroom and cried for a bit,t hen when I came out she was watering my cactus along with the other plants AFTER I SAID SPECIFICALLY NOT TO WATER THE CACTUS IT WILL ROT, and this was the last straw and I smacked her reall hard and she cracked the window when she fell against it. so then I took money from her purse to pay for a new one and smacked her again.
So I don't understand why she left me for beating her when she said she liked it rough? I'm sick of the mind games ladies.
2007-01-05 09:54:51 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay: Just stay away from her. You really don't want to be with those kind of women because:
1. They usually divorce you
2. They end up in straightjackets
3. They are heartless
They are stupid.
I used to have this boyfriend who would just do that and I was alot happier when I broke up with him. And, I agree with you, those kinds of people deserve to be hit.....there all @sses...but ya, thats really sad about the heartworms...she took a life!
I strongly suggest that you don't get another girlfriend or wife like that.
Good luck.....................and happy -whatever-holiday-is-coming-up-next!!!!
2007-01-05 10:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by ~ Lillie ~ 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Thank goodness your ex is not completely dumb. Why didn't you take care of your own dog? Why did you blame her when it wasn't taken care of properly? Slapping and rough games in the bedroom is completely different to hitting a woman in anger. She brobably didn't believe you would do it because it is completely unacceptable in any circumstance. Let alone twice. Hitting her for watering a plant is really over the top. Your lover should be more important to you than your dog, and your pot plant. Then blaming her for cracking the window when it was you that hit her into it. Then taking money out of her purse (that's illegal too, stealing).
You seem to me like you haven't had a good roll model to show you how a man should behave. This is not your fault. Also you blame someone else for everything that goes wrong in your life. I know it must be difficult to hear these things but I really hope you can understand. If you can't change yourself your life will be sad and difficult.
You could have a wonderful, joyous life if you can learn how to be a good partner and treat women with respect. I will try to explain what a man should do in this situation.
First, if she offers to take the dog to the vet, let her but make sure she has done it, dont wait for her to tell you, ask her. If she hasn't or doesn't want to, then do it yourself. She shouldn't have to if she doesn't want to. It's your dog.
Second, If your dog is sick, don't blame her, the dog is your responsability.
Third, if you are upset and she does something that makes you angry. Leave the room, go outside, take out your anger on something else. In the old days it used to be chopping the wood, but now they say hit a pillow. Don't take off in the car, you could kill someone or yourself. When you are calm, come back and talk to her about it.
Fourth, if she won't stop watering the cactus, throw it out and get a plant that will put up with lots of water. Or you could let her kill it and buy another one, she might learn not to water it so much. She might have done it just to get you back for threatening her.
You could get some help in understanding this whole relationship thing if you check out www.drphil.com . If you want more help I think getting counselling would be a good idea. You don't want to end up in jail. Make good choices and have a good life.
Happy New Year.
2007-01-05 10:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
People, no matter if they are male or female will not ever, ever, ever remember what is important to each other unless it's a mutual anniversary or trip to attend.
Other then that, it just doesn't work the way you explained it. All relationships are the partner never remembering what the other instructs the other to do most of the time.
Why? Because, individuals will always have their mind preoccupied with what is still most important to them, except when it comes to giving a gift or taking time out for each other to talk for a while, (providing you can talk to each other).
Once you understand that, then there doesn't have to be anger or sadness because if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.
If you want a future relationship, don't expect anything anymore. That way, you can be at peace and not end up in jail for snapping like that.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-05 10:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
were u guys married or just bf/gf? cuz that would make a big difference. Was it your dog or her dog or did you buy it together using a bit of ur money and a bit of hers?k well its one thing if you guys are playin around and smackin each other in the bedroom, but its a totally different thing to hit ur partner. You should be ashamed of ur self for hitting her...yes ok u have a point about the dog and all, but is the dog well now? was it ur dog in the first place? could you have taken the dog to the vet the day after "she" went? Never hit a lady
2007-01-05 10:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by xhalfangelicx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't even believe your trying to defend that. Likeing it rough in the bedroom and hitting her for watering a cactus and not taking the dog to the vet are two completely different things.
2007-01-05 09:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by asedwards21 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Umm.. liking it rough doesn't neccessarily mean liking to be abused. x.x;
Maybe you should try talking to women before beating them up. I don't know about other girls, but personally, I'm totally unattracted to guys who push women around, period. Not to mention.. she cracked the window!!! That would've hurt like crazy. Not to mention you stole her money. Not cool. Then you hit her again?
You also should realize that you cracked your own window. Stealing the money from her was just unnecesary. Especially when she was trying to help you by watering the plants. :(
Maybe you should buy some sort of stress ball or something.. it might help you to keep your temper down. ;O
2007-01-05 10:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sick of the mind games?? I think you're just sick in the mind! Seriously - having kinky rough sex is one thing, and beating the crap out of her is something quite different. Any normal person would have no problem seeing the difference!!
2007-01-05 10:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I think you are just attempting to get a rise from the women, I think you know there is a difference between being rough in the bedroom and beating a woman.
2007-01-05 09:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by PDH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O.k you got some problems. Not to say that she didn't deserve it, but at the same time I think slapping her hard enough she cracked your window is a little much. So I don't blame her for leaving. Damn though man get some help.
2007-01-05 10:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right! You do sound like a jerk! Someone into masocism is not living a healthy lifestyle. Physically or mentally. I'm sure if things accidently got carried away, the police would believe you when you told them that she asked for it.
2007-01-05 09:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She said she likes it rough in bed, she doesn't like it this way in life! There is a huge difference! The first one is just a game, the second one is something real that happens in the real life!
2007-01-05 09:59:08 · answer #11 · answered by baby2007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋