OK here goes. I'm dating a woman who is separated from her husband who is dying of various non contagious ailments. She still cares for him deeply, but can't remain in the marriage for other reasons (not his Illness since she goes over daily and takes care of him). I understand that she'll be with him until the end and am OK with that (I think).
She's super cool and says she is into me. She's VERY busy with her carrear and Grad School too; we have VERY Little time together as a result.
She says she Loves spending time with me, but has so little that she complains that she has none for herself.
She is not one who will plan a date for fear of disappointment if it doesnt' happen due to some emergency. I want to be with her, but can't help feeling that she's pushing me out. What Do You think I should do??
2007-01-05 09:51:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be on standby. Is difficult am sure. But what you see as pushing you out probably isn't so. She is taking care of a terminal husband and going to grad school and has fit you in to. Wow! She sounds like a strong great woman. Respect her honesty and her decisions. Good luck.
2007-01-05 09:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that her husband is really sick? Or is this just what she tells you? Sounds to me like she's playing games. I find it difficult to know a woman is married, husband is dying and yet she's out dating? Why doesn't she get a divorce? Hire a nurse? Is she sticking around for the money? Sounds like it would be a tough one for the husband to take too...if he's really sick.
Something just doesn't sound right about this.
I would go with your gut feelings and find a woman who's not dragging baggage along.
2007-01-05 18:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a woman under a huge amount of stress. Don't push it. Let her come to you- this way, you can be sure that she is with you for the right reasons, not because she needs a shoulder to cry on during all the stress etc. If it's meant to be, it will be. With all that is going on in her life, it's hard to even know if she is thinking straight.
2007-01-05 17:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off. She may very well be into you but, there is so much going on in her life, she can not give you what you need.
Be her friend - and, after the devastation she's going to be experiencing when her husband dies, she'll know who's shoulder is available.
If you are truly not jealous, step back and let time uncomplicated her life. If her life remains complicated when she has graduated and/or her husband dies, then she's not the one for you.
2007-01-05 17:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a situation where I'm with someone that has very little time for me also. I just had to accept that this is who he is. I can like it and enjoy the time we have together or I can forget the whole thing. I decided to enjoy what we have.
If I met someone else that had more time and energy for me, that I liked as well I would move on but for now I've just accepted this relationship for what it is.
2007-01-05 17:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should not be dating a married woman no matter if her husband is at death door! You need to move on and if she really cares for you she will come looking for you when she becomes a widow.
2007-01-05 17:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time and let her make time for you, but in the meanwhile you send flowers and cards and candy to let this woman know you are here and willing to wait until the time is suitable. you cant knock a person for trying to make it in life and further there education so just work with her and be supportive of her and all the things that she is involved in. Time is Patience
2007-01-05 17:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, sounds like her tray is full. wouldn't you like to be on the tray. well maybe she'll clear some space for you if she thought you were worthy. so show her you are worthy of her time. make yourself where she wants to spend more time with you. like make her feel important. she is trying to do the right thing and better herself all at the same time. i commend her. but i know that maybe she's also feeling neglected. maybe you could do something extra special for her and get her attention. then maybe she'll think wow i don't want to loose him. i want to breathe his air all the time. you want to be the first thing she thinks of and the last thing she thinks of, then win her over.
2007-01-05 17:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.....The woman is MARRIED, pal! You are fooling around with a woman whose husband is dying....Hello!!! What part of this don't you get? What kind of morals does she have? What is wrong with you? Why in the world would you want to be associated with a woman like that? She is a liar, a cheat and she is using you.........Wake up.....DUH!!!! You are a fool if you continue to put up with this!
2007-01-05 17:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at the moment she has a lot on her plate, and the best thing you could probably do for her is to be there for her when she needs you, but not push for more commitment from her at this point.
2007-01-05 17:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋