He is nice and really a gentle man has lots of bagage
2007-01-05 09:35:54 · 30 answers · asked by abrianna a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My opinion is that he doesn't really love u, he is in love with your body. I think he wants to have sex with u. That's why he is saying this. Stay aware of what is happening.
2007-01-05 09:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bagage at 14, give me a break. Why do you need bagage? Get out now. Here's the deal, and I'm 40 so I've been here done this. At 13/14 you are infatuated not in love. In the next 5-8 years, who you both are is going to dramatically change. The chances that after you each have developed your true personalities that you will still love each other is very slim, but I will admit possible. But at this age "love" should be fun and effortless. If it is not, then you should really move on. However, at 13/14 you won't listen to an old fart like me and you will struggle with this relationship for several years, and then think, gee that old guy on Yahoo was right, I just wasted 3 years on this jerk.
2007-01-05 09:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he really feels that he loves you. If you like him then say so but stay friends. But he could also change the way he feels in a few years time (may be even shorter)
Believe me, all of us grown ups out there KNOW that we will change as we get older. Our views and our likes and dislikes and the way we see the world WILL change. Both of you are very young and will have a lot more growing up to do. If he truly loves you then he can and WILL wait for you. Otherwise, you both will move one to other things. BOTH of you might later find someone else.
"a gentle man has lots of bagage"? One - he is not a man yet. There is a lot more responsibility for him to become a man. Two - if he has baggage, then those baggage will affect you. If you go out with him, you will have to deal with the baggage. I don't think you are ready to take on such issues yet at 13.
I encourage you to talk to your parents and get their help. They will appreciate that you trust them and they will will likely trust you more as you mature.
2007-01-05 09:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to get involved in a serious relationship. Both of you have many years ahead and many more experiences (in relationships and outside of relationships). There is no need to hurry; life takes a very long time.
Coming out of a 14 year old's mouth, I wouldn't take the word love too seriously. Maybe he does love you on one level and it might turn into something much more later on, who knows? But for the moment, both of you have a lot of growing and learning to do. Your emotions and your body are developing. Just enjoy one another's company, have fun. But keep in mind that life is just beginning. One more thing, I don't feel the same way about a guy I thought I was in love with when I was 15.
2007-01-05 09:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by Slick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been their!! first you have to ask your self if you even know what love is? talk to someone like a pastor or someone that you know is taking you seriously.
i went with a boy from the age of 13, all through high school. i didn't know i was in love true love until i was 18. we broke up because we stopped communicating. we lost each other. i learned too late! i will tell you what i know now...
i believe that love, real true love lives on a spritual plain and with lots of time we can express it physically. young one, you have to be careful, and not be confused with physical love, and or harmones. true love never dies! it is eternal. it lives in your heart and soul, and physical contact is not necessary. this kind of love is possible but the only way to know for sure is to nurture the spritual love without the physical love. time will give you the answers. you must be patient! dont have sex and think its love! sex is not love! be careful. how do i know this?
i have lived it. my first love and i are back together after 35 years. the spritual love we felt all those years ago never died. we have both grown and changed, we have shared our lives with other people. we tried to forget each other and it just didnt work. now, we are back and stronger than ever...we have been back together for over 2 years now and its only getting better. he is my best friend. they called it puppy love.
i want you to know that this is very rare, a one in a million chance. i feel at this point that it is not spritual love, at least not yet. it takes years, sometimes decades, to ever know for sure. try to talk to an adult, someone that realy cares. good luck!
2007-01-05 10:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by cat eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing a 14 year old boy can be sure that he loves is his video games. YOU are too young to think about this. It is good he is a gentleman but nobody should be talking about "baggage" at 13 and 14. You are kids, live like kids as long as you can.
2007-01-05 09:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gentle MAN? He's 14!! and how much baggage can a 14 year old have? he hasn't been on the earth that long.
2007-01-05 09:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD IS HE??? You said a nice "man." If he's more than a year or 2 older than you, run!!!!!! Immediately. You are not of legal age and could be putting yourself in danger. Also, boys/men often tell a girl they love them so that they will have sex with them. You are no way old enough! Please find another boyfriend, and just let this one go.
2007-01-05 09:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of baggage at 14?? I'm guessing you are hardly 13 to know about baggage.
2007-01-05 09:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think If you are not ready for love yet then simply tell him that you guys need to get to know each other a little better so that you can be more comfortable with telling each other your true feelings this is the only way to build trust in your relationship by being honest with each other :)
2007-01-05 09:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by BoDeeO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋