i keep getting mad at my bf over the dumbest little things...?

Question

i DONT want to loose him, he makes my life complete, but i keep getting upset with him over really dumb stuff. like a few days ago he was waiting for his friend to come over and he sounded super impacient wanting him to come and i got upset because it seemed like he didnt want it to just be the two of us, but he wanted his other friend as well. I know, that is dumb, but i jkeep getting upset over small things like this!!!!! please help me, what can i do?

Answer 1

This is not necessarily a small thing.
Did he tell you about this in advance? Was it otherwise a special occasion? Does he do this all the time? Did he act like you were in the way?
Was this your apartment? His? Yours shared?

More details on the other 'dumbest little things' would be helpful here.

You 'might' or 'might not' merely have had a 'wrong place, wrong time' moment, on this occasion.


Communicate. (Watch his eyes glaze over.) But tell him how you feel.
(Of course, he 'might' merely be an insensitive jerk. This also happens, but is not 'obviously' indicated.)

Answer 2

Calm down when you start to get that feeling of blood rushing to your head. Walk away for a little, listen to some music with headphones. Anything to take your mind off of what is bothering you. Don't you sometimes want to hang out with your girlfriends? How silly would you find it if you invited a friend over and he got mad at you? I know how you feel, I'm a woman too. You have to remember, men can't read our minds, no matter how mean of a face we put. Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all there has to be a reason why you're getting upset over these little things. Is there something that's bothering you? You need to have a talk with your bf and let him know how you're feeling otherwise he's gonna get tired of you. If you don't want to talk to him, think to yourself and lay all the cards in the table and work it out somehow. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Well maybe its because your sensing something. Maybe he didn't want it to just be the two of you. Maybe he doesn't feel about things the way you do and your sensing that in the things he is doing. We usually get annoyed by people when they have a different agenda then we do.

Answer 5

I guess if you really don't want to loose him you will be MORE consious of your future behavior. It's your only choice!!!! or you will loose him as he will get tired of this very quickly. Don't try to own him- he's your boyfriend not your new puppy. You will have to make the changes or suffer the natural consequences of your behavior. Trust me, see below, and good luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Tell him you want to have more tme for you 2 and have the friends over sometimes and see how you feel after that.

Answer 7

I do the same thing, and I am trying to correct it. I am not happy with myself, and I have no self esteem. When I was happy with the way I looked, I gave him more freedom and didn't bother him as much. Are you happy with yourself?

Answer 8

I agree with some people, just tell him that you want more time with him. You love spending time with you, tell him how much it means to you, both of you spending time alone.

But don't forget he does need his space also.

Best Of Luck..

Answer 9

you invited his friend over for dinner..so your guy was waiting for him...it sounds to me that you have security issues..because your guy is now paying attention to his friend and not you...sorry but the focus can't always be on you...

Answer 10

U have to help yourself get over your insecurities