can my sister and i pull our mother out of a nursing home even though she gave our older sister power of attorney. my mom has a little dimention excuse spelling and altimers.
2007-01-05 09:32:20 · 6 answers · asked by lfishel46 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why do you want to take your mom out with her problems. She will get worse perhaps over time and you will have to stay home 24 hours a day to care for her. Are you up to this.?? That means no life for you. She gave your sister power cause she knew she would do right by her. You can take your mother out of the home for a day or weekend outing which she would enjoy. It makes no difference about the power of attorney in that respect as long as you are responsible and take her back on time. This would do her more good than you just taking her out of the home cause you think that is best for her. I don't think you have thought this all the way thru yet. An elder is a great responsiblility. I know.I gave up my job, and had no means of support. Moved in with my mom and I took my mom home and kept her for 5 years. She had two broken hips, around the clock care, two surgeries, fix meals, go to doctors, take her for outings. Bath her. My dad had alzhimers and he would go out and get lost. I had my hands full. Thank god for the nursing home. It is not a good place, but if you visit alot, and take them out alot. Its makes like better for them and easier for you. Also Your mother is the only one who can change the power of attorney. Not your sister. But your mom has to be in a sane and remembering mind to do so, and will have to pass a test with a lawyer present to do so. I know. This is what I had to do just to get a power of attorney for my mom. Also you need a medical power so you can make all her medical decision and death decisions when she gets so bad she can no longer do it for herself. She must trust your sister or she would not have power. Best you talk to your sister without being hateful, or condeming. She will do what is best for your mom but you too should be able to discuss your thoughts about it with your sis. Good luck.
2007-01-05 09:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Marilyn M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your Mom has Alzheimers and Dementia then the best place for her is a nursing home. She needs 24/7 care. Are you able to provide that? If you can do you really think you'll be able to deal with the emotional issues that will come up? Think very hard about this before you do anything. Would taking her out really benefit anyone?
2007-01-05 15:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister has power of attorney, is that for guardianship or for finances --or both? If your sister is the legal guardian for your mother, then she gets to make those decisions.
If she is not the legal guardian, but has control of your mother's money, that is something different.
If you take your mother out of the nursing home, are you prepared to take care of her? This would be a full-time commitment --if she has Alzheimer's, then she may not be able to live on her own. Are you hoping to get some of her money to use to take care of her? If your sister has charge of the money, you need to be sure she is willing to do that before you take your mother out.
It is hard to see a loved one in a nursing home, but most of them are very good. You can go there every day and continue to be apart of your mother's life.
2007-01-05 10:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the nursing home a good one that treats her good? If not talk to your sister about other arrangements. She is not going to get better, only worse. The nursing home may be the best place for her if she requires constant attemtion. Would you be able to take care of her 24/7? I took care of my mother who had mild dementia but it got to the point I could no longer take care of her properly. She worsened as the years went on. The nursing home was the only choice. Good Luck!
2007-01-05 10:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the same thing I m facing now I want to take her out of the nursing home, she also has dementia. she wants to be with her family, I didn t put my father in one when they ask me I said no.. and I took care of him for a few months before he died. And I told myself I wouldn t do that to my mom, and I did because we were desperate. But she has already been in there for a month I think now.. and things just got worse.. Her crying to her children wanting out, not feeling safe I don t have a car and my sister works a lot, so we cant go see her very much. she has panic attacks everyday.. yelling for them to help her...breaks my heart. one nurse is nasty to her.. and I wont have anyone mistreating my mom and I don t care, if that is their disposition. so I m working on this this week....
2015-10-20 18:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by sonya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has POA I don't think there's anything you can do.
2007-01-05 10:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋