How much is too much? Hitting on a girl?

Question

We all know that in order to get the girl interested with you, you need to be open with her and talkto her. We all know that social people are good with relationships...

But then also, if you talk too much with the girl you like, she might find you desperate and find you unattractive, because you are too available.

SO MY QUESTION IS: What's the golden middle? How to do it and not overdo it?

Please tell me in DETAIL how much and what kind of talking needs to be done to keep up good contact with the girl, but not look too available and desperate?

SERIOUS, DETAILED answers please

Don't forget to ANSWER the question...


NOt about hitting, but about how much time I should spend talking to her? how much is too much?

Answer 1

There are no set rules here. A lot of it depends on the particular girl. Pay attention to body language and whether she seems interested or not. If you have something in common with her, talk about that. Throw in a little humor here and there, but not too much.

You know, I think what it all boils down to is to be yourself and not try too hard. Of course, you want to make an impression, but you don't want to be someone or something you're not just to impress someone. If it's taking too much effort on your part, maybe it's not the right girl for you. Be yourself, be real, be honest.

Good luck. :)

Answer 2

I Had A Slight Relationship In Which I Was To Available and Have Learned From It, Here Is My EXP and Thoughts on What To Do And What Not To Do.
1. You Need To Keep That Line Open That You Will Talk To Her But You Got Things To do To so She isnt like oh He is a Good Friend only and thats what it can be instead of Dating.
2. Show Interest In The Things That She Does and Dont Shut Her Down, The Whole I Know What You Mean Completely Cuts Down Talking Time And Doesnt Let Her Know You Are not Just Interested In Her Daily Things But Actually What is Up.
3. Talk To Other Girls In a Group Setting And Let Her Know That You Have Other Girls That Like You Too. Listen To Girls talk and talk and then Turn All The Attention To Her All Of a Sudden. It Makes Her Feel Special.
4. A Text In The Morning Telling Her You Hope She Has A Good Day Always Works and A Little Sweet Dreams At Night Is Good.
5. Give Her The Pleasure Of Knowing You Are There And Then Pull Away, in a way its kind of Flirting Cause She Will Come Back Wanting To talk To You Even More.
6. Forms Of Comm. (MSN,YAHOO,MYSPACE,AOL, PHONE,TXT) Communication is Key In A Relationship Dont Forget.
7. Dont Take Her Whole Day Away, Let Her Have Things To Talk To You About When You have A Convo.
8.Compliments Are Good But Dont Over do It Cause Then You Sound Like A Freak Weirdo Stalker Person.
9. Simple Convos Nothing To Hard On At First.
10. Be Yourself
Good Luck

Answer 3

This is not a question that can be answered very specifically. There isn't a certain amount of time that is too much or too little. If you like someone, and don't want to seem desperate, you have to be able to read her responses to you and determine for yourself if you are pushing yourself too hard or not. The advice that I can give you is to just be yourself, and try to figure out what the two of you have in common, and have conversations about those things. When the conversation is winding down, make sure that you are the one that ends it, basically leave her wanting more. Then you will see if she is interested in you, or if you have more work to do.

Answer 4

sometimes if a guy is too much like a friend and talks to them so much and hangs out, they don't think of the obvious and get caught up with relationships with guys that aren't good. The never look torward the guy friend unless someone points it out, or so it seems. You need to make sure you talk to her when you get the chance, maybe flirt a little bit, but don't say a compliment every 5 seconds, that's jus aggrivating. You need to let her talk to, don't be the only one talkin. Normally if you talk to themm, they'll want to talk more. Have conversations with her in classes you are together in or in the hallways or even online. Talking online is basically unlimited. You can talk as long as you want there. But, try not to be obbsessive n im her the second you get on. Make it a little laid back, but don't back off and wait for her to say hi, bc a lot of the time, she might be waiting for you. If it's to the stage of calling the person, call once a day or twice, unless they expectin more than that. Don't calll every 5 seconds or complain when they have to go, beacuse it's too clingy. good luck!

Answer 5

That's a tough question.

Talking too much isn't too big of a deal...unless you are talking so much that she doesn't have a chance to talk, or if you are always talking about you & her and your undying love for her (that's more than annoying after a while)!

Have other things going on in life other than just dating her! That's what can make you seem too available or like the relationship is too much. If you don't have other things going on, find something to start doing. Get some friends or hang out with some family members, something. Get an activity that takes up a little of your time.

You want to know about "talking needs" and what to say... Just talk about things other than you two like 95% of the time. Wait for her to bring up things regarding the relationship.

You sound like a really nice guy and I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

Answer 6

when a girl like u she won't care if ur talking to much, she would be gaga over u....the only way she would get mad by u talking to much is if she only want to be friends...... talk to her about school, or work whatever, just don't let time pass, who knows if u wait to much longer u might lose her.... good luck...

Answer 7

Just talk about yourself.. Be honest and DON'T BE TOO COCKY... don't sell yourself so much or she won't buy it... just talk about what you like, what you don, etc... just try to sound interesting, don't be all open about you... be open but not too much...we like to get to know you little by little or else we will get bored

Answer 8

don't talk till she talks to you, when she asks you, answer the questions, don't over answer. be cocky, make fun of her, tease her, make her feel that you don't like her. its like telling her if you want to impress me you need to be more than a beautiful face or whatever. take the lead. don't be a wuss. good luck

Answer 9

its OK to hit on a girl a little if you have good intentions

Answer 10

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