ive liked a guy for over a year and we're really good friends.
i saw him eating lunch with another girl today and i knew she liked him soo i brought it up in a aim convo and decided to tell him i liked him a little while ago.
he responded with an 'aw thats cute..but i like someone else..im really sorry'
my hearts broken. what do i do? what do i say?
the girl he likes is someone i would have never thought him to be with. she knows nothing about him.
2007-01-05 09:28:38 · 21 answers · asked by xidontwanttotalkaboutitx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only thing you can do is back off gracefully. whether or not you will remain close now that he is involved with someone else remains to be seen. Sooner or later, you will probably distance yourselves some. On the other hand, the cards are on the table, he knows what's up. He may just need time to sort it through. I'd say go on with your life, let him get in touch with you more often that you get in touch with him, and start looking for other people to hang out with until you can get your perspective straight. It may also be that he likes your friendship too much to take the chance at losing it. So, you have a lot to think about. Observe his behavior and listen to your gut. It wont stear you wrong.
2007-01-05 09:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, find someone else; you didn't do anything wrong and it's really impressive that you actually approached him about it. So, you both were honest with each other and that's important. This one wasn't meant to be. Don't say anything. Don't feel you need to. Say "hi" in passing if you like, and soon that creepy feeling will go away. In the great scheme of things of your life, how much does this tiny incident mean anyway? Not much. Cheer up and know that there really are many more to come...and one will be just right for you!
2007-01-05 17:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Iseult 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Puddin', you'll just have to take this at face value. You might not see what he sees in her. Maybe you really are better for him. But if he doesn't see that, PLEASE don't waste your time trying to convince him to love you!
He didn't say you're a bad person, you're just not the person for him. There are BILLIONS of people in the world--I'm fairly sure you can find somebody who's better for you than somebody who isn't interested in you that way. No, I'm POSITIVE you can find somebody better.
Nurse your wounds, feel bad a LITTLE WHILE, and then just stay busy and keep your eyes open for other guys. He's not bad, you're not bad...you're just not meant to be together. It happens to everybody. Be polite to him AND her...suck it up and do it! I know it's hard, but you'll get over this and find somebody better or at least accomplish something if you just move on.
2007-01-05 17:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go and find a new crush. I am a guy so i don't directly understand, but I have had a crushs (all ended up in failure). There is no use to keep holding on to only one crush 4 granted. Crushes are like buses; If u miss 1 bus, there's always another.
2007-01-05 17:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
continue being friends and act like it never happend, don't persist and don't lose your friendship over the incident. If it's meant to happen it will and if not, someone else will come around. Don't put your life on hold over the whole situation either because you'll mis out.
2007-01-05 17:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by nancy v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do. you should distance yourself from this guy. time apart will help heal your heartbreak and give him a chance to miss you. if you do have to be around him, just act like nothing ever happened. be cool. don't say anything but nice things about the other girl. and pursue OTHER guys!!!!!
2007-01-05 17:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by sleepygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the heartache and move on. No sense in fighting for someone who obviously is into someone else.
2007-01-05 17:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts alot but it's useless to keep on thinking about him because you r hurting yourself even more, try and do your best to forget him or look at him as a friend nd no more look for another guy so you'll find it easy to forget him but I don't think you should keep on hurting yourself and keep on thinking about him. Goodluck :)
2007-01-05 17:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Krisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whose to say that the girl he likes will like him back??? Just because he likes her doesn't mean she'll like him. Just continue to be his friend. If it's meant to be it will be. But don't be a rebound for him, if the other girl doesn't like him.
Ps. I've learned that guys like to chase and pursue what they can't have (wink!)
2007-01-05 17:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by D.A. B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to try and get over him move on devote your interest to other things and maybe a new crush.
2007-01-05 17:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋