Father is not involved so that is not an option.
2007-01-05 09:28:02 · 7 answers · asked by beki101165 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Adolecents can be a handful today. When your child is not responding to your rules you view it as disrespectful....he views it as normal.
The most important thing is to stay in control. Don't allow your son to see you lose control, because then he will think that he has it. Have a talk with him about limits and boundaries and discuss consequences of breaking the rules. Your goal in doing this is to try to get him to change his attitude toward his negative behavior. Negative behaviors do not change unless the person is able to change their perspective on that particular behavior. If he still does not respond appropriately, do some research on PINS (Person In Need of Supervision)
It's also a good idea to let your son know that you will look into PINS if he does not begin to change his behavior. This way you lead by example of the open communication but you have to be sure to follow through on what you tell him otherwise he will begin to not take you seriously and think you only make threats.
And do not rule out emotional stress. You can always take your son to see a counselor- there may be a reason your son is behaving this way.
2007-01-05 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let him know that until he is paying the rent, food, clothing, heat, electricity,insurance, and all the other bills that he does not make the rules!!
You do!
You are the parent not your son. If he doesn't know this by now then you have a tough sell on your hands. The boy has got to know that there are rules everywhere he goes and he has to follow them whether he likes it or not.
If he does not abide then he can not expect to rule his own domain come the time. When he leaves and has his own home, his own children, then he can make the rules. but until then he has to accept that what you say is valid and is done out of love and the welfare of your offspring.
This is not something he will understand but then it isn't for him to understand right now. It is his obligation to live by your house rules until he leaves.
It won't be until he has his own children that he understands that...the house rules for better or for worse are put in place by the adult, the child has a say but not the final decision. That is up to the parent.
2007-01-05 17:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROUND HIM. If he doesn't listen - call the police on him. That will either shake him up - or not. But, it's better than being a doormat.
Do you have a father-figure in his life he could turn to? Grandfather, etc? If so, have them talk. It may help.
Oh, try not to knock his teeth down his throat. K?
2007-01-05 17:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by trishchar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out loveandlogic.com
I use it with my kids and actually LOVE being around them because
they are suck awesome kids. It worked wonders with my "problem child"
Good luck
2007-01-05 17:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out for a week OR! make him live with a relative (TELL THEM TO Be stRICT)
2007-01-05 17:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by thorpasaurous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he will lose some of his privlages
2007-01-05 20:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank his butt and kick him out.
2007-01-05 17:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by vern7us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋