My best friend and I talk about everything. He and I have confided in each other about a lot of personal stuff. But the one thing that bothers me the most is...it is so obvious that his girlfriend is using him. Now we have a mutual understanding and we accept and appreciate the others opinion. But when it comes to his woman, his nose is wide open. They have a history together, but he has been given a new lease on life, and dragging her into it will never get him anywhere. But I ultimately want him to be happy, and I know only he can make the decision for himself. I too was once there with my ex husband. And he saw everything I went through. Maybe I am not giving credit where credit is due. He has told me that he is aware of her wavering love, and he means to make a change for the new year. Should I let things just flow or should I just speak my mind as usual?
2007-01-05 09:25:34 · 10 answers · asked by mamas1gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are a true friend, tell him and leave him be. at this point, it is up to him.
2007-01-05 09:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just like, when my wife asks if a dress makes her look fat...if you say something, no one wins...you or your friend. As a woman, he might even think that you're saying things because you're jealous...it's for sure his girlfriend will claim that.
The best thing you can do is to be there if things fall apart and he needs a shoulder to lean on and some one to talk to and listen.
In this case, there is nothing you can do to make him happy...so sit back and like you said, just let things flow.
2007-01-05 09:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by mottthedog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you let things go on that. If he sees it there is no reason to remind him of it. Also sounds like you are doing it to benifit yourself. Maybe open a door for yourself. Just noticed something in what you wrote. I would keep shut especially if he has noticed it. Let him make his decision.
2007-01-05 09:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I would address this with him is if I had absolutely rock-solid proof that his girlfriend is doing him wrong. If this is just gut feeling without any real evidence we're talking about here, I'd keep my nose out of it.
2007-01-05 09:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him before it's too late, you won't lose anything, just make sure you won't lose him as a friend, choose the right way to say it and the right time
2007-01-05 09:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by a7la_mn_al3assal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two really are close.
Speak your mind. Go for it!
2007-01-05 09:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Steven Keith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't work for me tried it here. And all he did was like o your lieing i think u like me and we believed me about everything but this. he stil goes out with her but i like him now and i avoid the convo with him and his girl
2007-01-05 09:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by drummergurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to find out on his own however tempted you are to tell him, try to resist. he might resent you for telling him, you never know. good luck
2007-01-05 09:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be the best for everyone to go ahead and tell him
2007-01-05 09:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be honest and open.
2007-01-05 09:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋