on new years i got drunk at my girlfriends house party with a bunch of friends. i was very very drunk and dont remember most of the night. i guess i made out with one of my guy friends (somebody i used to date) for a good part of the night. i even made out with him infront of her. but i dont remember it at all (all i remember was giving him a peck when 12:00 rolled around). she is so mad at me, and said she needed time to think about us. i apologized, and feel bad i hurt her , but i think that its not so much of a big deal. i was really drunk and not myself. she knows that. what do you think? how would you feel/react in this situation?
2007-01-05 09:23:38 · 19 answers · asked by alittlelost 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for clarification i am a girl. i usually date guys. she is the first girl i have ever dated. and everyone was drunk. me, her, him. everybody. it was a huge party.
2007-01-05 09:29:22 · update #1
first of all dont drink ever again. you cheated on her, it is serious, but part of it was that guys fault and her fault. did he know you were taken? was he drunk, too? also if she saw you two making out, why didnt she stop you since she knew you were drunk?
2007-01-05 09:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Candy!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, but only one that your significant other can answer. Open a line of communication and discuss these issues. If I may make a comment though, if you know that alcohol causes you to not have any control over what you are doing, then maybe you should not endulge so much in the spirits. After all, what's more important to you: alcohol, partying and being in a stupper or the relationship you have with your partner? Now on the issue of forgiveness. I believe that if you truely Love. That's Love with a capital "L". Then forgiveness comes naturally only if the other person sincerely asks for forgiveness with the intent to make sure the same mistake isn't made again. We all live and learn and make mistakes, but note that if you have feelings of guilt for your actions and have the need to apologize then, Yes you cheated. Do not rely on other people's opinions of what they would have done to justify your actions, because they might only be only using you to justify thier poor decisions also. Be true to your self, learn from your experience and strive to never make the same mistakes. Good Luck.
2007-01-05 17:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing to remember about alcohol is that it lowers your inhibitions....meaning that you act or behave in a manner that you would normally not do (because you know it's wrong). Somewhere deep down inside of you....you've always wanted to kiss this guy or at least find this person attractive.
A peck on the cheek is one thing...but you said you spent a good part of the night making out with this person. That's a little more serious than just a peck on the cheek. I think your g/friend has every right to be upset/angry/hurt/betrayed. Hopefully she'll be forgiving and take you back....give you a second chance. If not...then don't hold it against her. She may never be able to trust you again.
2007-01-05 17:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I was drunk" is no excuse for bad behaviour.
If your drinking has an adverse affect on your normal life then that is a strong indicator that you have a drinking problem.
Failing to take responsibility for what you do when you drink is also another strong indicator that you have a serious drinking problem.
Drinking so much that you need to rely on others to tell you what you did the night before is a third strong indicator that you may have a serious issue with alcohol.
Your girlfriend is right to take a step back & take a serious look at your relationship. Do you feel so bad that you hurt her that you can honestly say to yourself that you will never drink to excess again?
Something to think about, I hope you will.
2007-01-05 17:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your girlfriend, I'd tell you to lay off the hooch or get the hell out. If you're actually old enough to drink, that means you're an adult, and one part of being an adult is being responsible for yourself and your actions, no matter what state you're in.
Also, if you think it's not a big deal, then I have a hard time taking your apology seriously. It sounds like you only said you were sorry because you knew you ought to, and not because you mean it.
2007-01-05 17:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pretty upset, why didnt u give her a kiss on the new year? I'd have to day that this isnt the worst case of cheating, but if u made out with him, it deff, isnt a good thing, You have to look in your heart and find out if this is really what you want.
If it happened, to me, which similar things have, id be hella pissed, and would have a serious talk with my significant other.
I think that maybe you should have her by you more when you're drunk, becaues it sounds like you didnt pay much attention to her.
2007-01-05 17:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kirk L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depending on how the other person reacts to the kissing if shes mad at you yes i think its serious cheating but on the other hand she said that u need time to think about it ... if your asking about how to get her to forgive u write a letter to her because u can make as many rough copy's and get it just right i think she knows that u were not Ur self but really that's still not something u should have done i would probably react the same way as u did it in front of her.
2007-01-05 17:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Day Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your story Im assuming you are dating the girl and cheated on her with an ex guy. Not good Im sure she is hurt and probably embarassed watching you make out with someone else. It is definetely cheating and is up to her if she will forgive you. Maybe you should not drink anymore, its too much of a risk in hurting someone you care about.
2007-01-05 17:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off.....both parties are to blame here. Was he drunk also....? What a great excuse to go around kissing whomever you want. It's not an acceptable excuse..and she has lost trust in you. You will have to earn that back....
2007-01-05 17:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cheating is cheating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you are going to drink , which isn't a good idea, but if you are you should drink not to the point that you aren't in control of your own mind and body.Bad things happen to women that let them selves get in that situation. Apologize to everyone and don't let it happen again.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MOST everyone wants to have good memories of New years Eve, not bad ones.
2007-01-05 17:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by flutterby_bluesky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋