am i gay? or bi? i dont know! there are 2 entries.?

Question

hi i'm 16. ill start out by saying that all my life, ive always noticed boys more then girls which yeah, is sort of strange. From what i remember, i never wanted to be romantically involved with boys, i just wanted a really attractive best friend. You should know that at school, the majority of my friends are girls and ive been ridiculed and called gay and fag since the sixth grade. that's why i only have 2 male friends. In late august of 06, i was in my bed and suddenly, i had a panic attack. i couldnt breathe and all i could think was UGH I'M GAY OH NO OH NOOO. since then until now, ive been depressed about trying to find my true orientation. I spoke to my parents and they're ok with it if i'm gay and i'm very appreciative. I'm still really depressed though. i have fallen for girls before and gotten hard ons sorry, awkward ocassionally, but i cant view women as sexual icons and get turned on by looking at porn. If you don't mind, ill continue this on another entry

sorry if its long

Answer 1

Sheesh Dude, how abut worrying about your education right now and then worry about what you want to do.

Answer 2

Wow. well im almost the same. i like guys but somtimes im attracted by other girls. I think girls are just so beautiful, theres so much more to them.....

Anyways back to ypur question....how would u feel about dating a guy instead of just staring at them? In this society, im pretty sure you'll find someone as unsure as you nad maybe you can go from there. You can maybe go to a center where other bi/straight ppl ur age hang out and talk. If ur in NYC email, even if ur not! For now you can labeled as Bi curious. ;-p

Also, theres no reason to be depressed about your sexuality. Embrace it. Dont let others get you down no matter how hard they tease. The only reason people tease is because they dont understand and to hide their own insecurities!

Answer 3

hahhaa..sorry cant help it, i;ve been there!

for starters you;re young.
therefore you havent had enough sexual experiences to decide best on your sexuality.
im 18, but i've done 'everything'. started early, so.... yes
and i'm definately bisexual.'

to the first person who answered this "THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH GAY PEOPLE"
sorry about that,ahem let me continue.

some guys tend to make more friends with girls then other guys, and i dont really see anything wrong with that, neither is it gay or something of that sort, it just means you're more understanding, a great listener and arent the rowdy, need to be macho all the time type of guy.i have a feeling your openminded, and not closed to certain mentalities.[cant see any other way on how you told ur parents, but im glad theyre on ur side!]

if you had a panic attack on being gay, it means this
1.you're in denial, and are afraid of being gay, because they're looked at differently.
2.you're straight as a ruler.
3.you're a metrosexual, meaning your comfortable with your sexuality, being a guy, and having a feminine side, and dont really care about who thinks what.

and dont be depressed.sometimes asking yourself a few questions can help a lot.
examples:
1.do you get a hard on when you think of " c o c k"? [sorry being blunt, but thats just how i am]
2.do you seem to get excited when you see a good looking guy, or just appreciative of their good looks, and admitant to the fact that they're handsome.
3.ever stood in front of a naked woman or man, [one that looks good helps] and seen what happens? whats your reaction?
4.ever gotten a b l o w job? ever thought of doing that to a guy?

the list is endless.the point is, dont ignore what you feel, theres nothing wrong with being gay, thats what i think, if you fall into denial, you'll be depriving yourself and theres nothing worse then being sexually deprived because its frustrating, specially at this age.
try to ask a close female friend of yours, that you find moderately attractive, to help you, see how far she can turn you on, let her do what she wants.and then ask a guy who you KNOW is gay, and think is attractive to do the same.
if you STILL cant decide, you're bisexual.
and being one, is beautiful :P
so dont worry, give yourself some time, and try out new things.
dont jump in and decide your sexuality because u clearly havent experienced enough.
be true to yourself buddy.
GOOD LUCK
RAVE

Answer 4

It's not strange at all. If you don't get turned on by girls in porn, that doesn't mean that you dont' like them. I think you might be bisexual, but you're young. You should explore your options since most people seem to be alrigth with it. Wait till college and get to know your real self, and I'll bet you'll figure out what you want in life. And there's no sense in putting a label on it. If you fall for a guy, then you fall for a guy. If you fall for a girl, you fall for a girl. Labels are wholly unnecessary, and just make you depressed. Good Luck.

Answer 5

It sounds like you need to experiment with your sexuality to really learn if you are gay or bi-sexual. If you have dated girls and gotten turned on by them that is a sign you have physical attraction to girls. If you tend to notice guys more so than girls I don't know if that's necessarily a sign you are gay.

I am married with five kids. I would never sleep with a woman but I find the female form very attractive and I tend to notice beautiful women. I think part of it is that I am sizing myself up and comparing myself to them and feeling a bit inferior in addition to appreciating their beauty. I am not bi-sexual though...

I think you need to give it time and once you are ready you will figure it out on your own. Don't let other narrow minded, ignorant people bring you down and determine your sexual identity...

Good luck!

Answer 6

Ummm you seem more gay than bi, But you've fallen for girls, and you don't want to hav a romantic relationship with boys. Well you probably are Bi but you should just keep going through life and experiment a little and if someone calls you gay and your offended just say takes one to know one helps me when people call me names xD
i kno that didn't really help but still just go with the flow and whatever happens happens :]

Answer 7

i guess i cant really tell you if you are gay or bi. only you will no that. even though you might not know right now, im sure later on in life you will figure it out. theres absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, but theres always the asshole who seems to think there is, and if he gives you grief about it, just remember you arent the only one. many teens have problems like this. your just a little confused.

Answer 8

you are most likely bi. it's ok i have lots of bi friends none completely gay though. i think everyone is attracted to both sexs just most don't want to admit too it...i think the gay people probably just prefer boys or girls but would have either. i'm not bi...but i'm curious i've kissed 3 girls but i'm not into girls if you get what i'm saying. yes i'm interested in girls but that does not make me bi or lesbian and for you liking girls does not make you straight it makes you bi but you prefer boys but it has been hard for you to admit it most likely b/c of your surrondings at school in such like at my school noone is ridiculed b/c of their sexual preferences b/c i mean we all realize it's their choice and really it's not our say in the matter what they do. you most likely would consider yourself bi though because of your attraction to both male and female.

Answer 9

If you are gay don't worry. It's not a bad thing to be gay. Sometimes you don't have to just know like you do, my girlfriend always noticed women more then men, and that's how she knows she's gay. If you like to look at men, and women, then you could be bisexual, if you like men more you could still be bisexual and just prefer them. Don't try and turn yourself straight if your not, you are what you are, do what you will with it.

Answer 10

You are only 16. You have all the time in the world. Don't rush. Questions such as this one will answer itself as you go along in life........enjoy your youth!