I love my mom very much, but sometimes she wants me to live like my brother. Me and my brother have always been very different. One she has always acts like, she likes my brother more than me and has always had him in a high pedal stool. When it comes to me she always wants me to act like i am the danzal in distress, always wants me to depend on my husband, and everything i do in life is sometimes not good enough for her. This weekend I wanted to travel up and my mom started to nag me on how dangerous it is to go by myself, so I ended up not wanting to go. Should I stop telling my mom so much of my life? Should i tell her the way I feel? I avoid telling her what i feel because I do not want to make her feel bad or I dont want to disrespect her. I love her very much and i wish I can be half the mother that she was to me. what should I do?
2007-01-05 09:21:48 · 9 answers · asked by ivonne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be respectful, but find a way to tell her how you feel. At least you'll get your feelings out and know that she's heard them--she might not realize exactly what she's doing.
Give her a chance to be an even better mother. It might be uncomfortable at first, but don't assume she'll be too hurt or angry or whatever to change. She might surprise you. Or not. But I'm pretty sure she'll never change if you don't give her a good reason to.
Be calm, be honest, and be quick about it. Rip it off quick like a band-aid! Just tell her...it's time.
2007-01-05 09:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur mom sort of sounds like my mother. I just stopped telling her anything about my life that has any meaning. She has always been one to act like the "damsel in distress" and she wants me like that too. Also when I say I want to drive up and visit she always has safety issues like I'm not capable to driving myself 3 hours. I'm a bus driver for heavens sake. Mothers are mothers I guess. I just hope I do not turn out to be like her in my older age.
2007-01-05 19:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would try to tell her how you feel in a calm and caring way she may not even know how shes making you feel.If you let her know it may get her to thinking and it may open the door to a closer relationship When you tell her make sure you open with mom i really love you but somethings bothering me and tell her how you feel .
2007-01-05 19:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by catfancy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately tell her how you feel. Dont keep it to yourself anymore. Tell her you are an adult and make your own decisions. She needs to realize that. Tell her that you feel like she keeps your brother on a pedestal too and you feel that she prefers him over you. Good luck. Tell her these things in a nice way.
2007-01-05 17:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should tell her how u feel. u might not want to make her feel bad but she should know how she is making U feel. i she knew how she was making u feel i'm sure she would stop acting the way she is and she would see u as u really r.
2007-01-05 17:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would deffinetly tell her how you feel and I would also maybe not tell her as much of your life, until you feel that you have reached the level where she respects that you are your own person and that you are not your brother.
2007-01-06 01:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥JoJo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of the love you feel for her, you should definitely let her know the way you feel. forgive her if her initial reaction is not very positive (I am only saying if, she might as well understand it right away). rest assured that, ultimately, your feelings will trickle down to her attitude towards you
2007-01-05 17:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell her how you feel
2007-01-05 17:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha POOP!
2007-01-05 17:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by thorpasaurous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋