I don't trust anyone that I know except my husband and my mother.
2007-01-05 09:21:22 · 10 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
LOL I know lots of people who are godparents and aren't really all that trusted with their godchild.
I don't think it's wrong not to have godparents, it's originally a religious thing and my religion didn't do it.
You do need to discuss with your husband who would care for your children if you were gone. It's the most responsible thing you can do, and it can prepare whoever you choose for that possibility.
We don't have real godparents for our children, but "Uncle DJ" and "Crazy-Aunt Amy" are the people we've designated as the people to raise our boys if something happened to us. They have sort of taken on a traditional "godparents" role.
I think, for your sanity and your child's social wellbeing, you should try to eventually come around to trusting some other trustworthy people a little bit... at least so that you can leave your child with a teacher when the time comes, or go out for your anniversary or something.
2007-01-05 09:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you define 'Godparents'. Really, it can have two meanings.
1. Baptismal sponsors - people you have chosen to help you raise your children in your choosen faith.
2. Legal guardians if something should happen to the parents. If you and your partner were both to die, these legal guardians (often called godparents) would be in the position to make decisions for your children.
1 does not imply 2 (or vice versa). If you want someone to be a legal guardian should something happen to you, you need to spell it out in your will. If not, your children will become wards of the state upon your death.
If faith isn't a big issue for you, then don't worry about 'godparents' as in the first definition. However, please, for the sake of your children, designate legal guardians in your will. It's ok if it's your parents that you name, but you should probably start looking for an alternate, as grandparents generally don't outlive their grandchildren!
2007-01-06 00:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by pianogal73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really not bad not to have god parents for you child. But you really do need to sit down with your husband and figure out who will take over the role of being a parent to you child IF and i do say IF something would ever happen to you and your husband.
What about his side of the family is there any aunts or uncles or cousins or any of your or his best friends that you would trust.
Once you do have someone in mind you need to go and make it legal due to if something was to happen they would put the child in a foster home and you don't want that to ever happen. I had my best friend take the roll and she is the best. We went and had it legal on paper and just in case something was to happen she would get legal custody of my daughter and there would be no way that anyone else would get her.
Good luck and make sure you make it LEGAL!!!
2007-01-05 19:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by nickole30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. God Parents are named so if something happens to you and your spouse, they take any minor children in and raise them or make sure your wishes are done for your kids. Have a statement in writing and leave it with your mother that lets your wishes about your kids be known in case you and your spouse die. Both of you need to sign it. It doesn't mean that your mom has to raise them, just that she will see that a good home will. If you want, you can have the statement notarized. That way there will be no foster homes for your kids.
2007-01-05 17:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by gigglings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not if you don't have someone trust worthy you can leave them too but can you really be too picky i mean as long as you pick someone decent it should be better than having an accident and leaving them to be taken to an orphanage. Im just saying don't be too choosy if you have any sibling or something that you know are good people than pick them. Don't think that you are gonna live forever there are no guarantees in life.
2007-01-05 23:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any. I just had my real parents and that was/is good enough. And, I have a God I believe in. And, I had wonderful grandparents. That was just right for me, I had faith that someone would be there to take care of me.
So, to answer your question: No way, it is not wrong at all, do what you please and want and believe in.
2007-01-05 17:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its bad. I do not have godparents for my children. However, its not a bad idea to discuss with your husband and see who the children would go to god forbid something happen to the two of you. Good luck!
2007-01-05 17:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole reason for god parents is it someone you trust. If you have your Mom or family that you would care for your baby if something happen to you , I would say that enough.
2007-01-05 17:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by angel_lynn_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong, they are nice to have but not a nescesity.
2007-01-05 17:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so
2007-01-05 17:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋