A friend of mine reckons it's way too long Before having another child?... do you think so?
2007-01-05 09:19:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Depending on your age, a 10 year gap isn't too long because you should have your babies at your own pace. Unless in 10 years you'll be over 35 because then, pregnancy complication risks increase.
2007-01-05 09:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all up to you. No matter what, the siblings will have love for each other as long as you raise them that way. I speak from experience. I have a brother who is 18 months older and I also have a little sister that is 8 years younger. No matter what, there will be bickering between the children, but if there is a big gap it probably wont begin until the younger one gets a little older. My older bro and I used to bicker when we were young and have since grown out of it. My little sister and I disagree more now that she is in highschool and has a strong opinion of her own.
One upside to having children farther apart is that you will have more help. I used to alwas want to help my mom when my sister was little. I used to entertain her for hours singing and dancing and such.
I myself have two children ages 2 1/2 and 13 months..... it can be tough when they are so close together on many levels... but the good thing is that they are close. SO it is all up to you and your preference.
2007-01-05 09:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by ELLA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO...thats what I plan on doing. I want to have another child (planned) when my first is 10.
I knew a couple who had a 10 year old girl and a 20 year old, and the way their realtionship was, was kinda neat, like a 3rd parent almost or someone else to talk to other than mom and dad.
So yeah 10 years is fine for a gap.
2007-01-05 09:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young enough to still be around to raise the child to adulthood and in good health, no, it's not too long. Although, the older children might seem more like an aunt or uncle to the new child instead of a sibling, but who cares as long as everyone is happy.
2007-01-05 09:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by T.M. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
If you are still okay to have a baby, then not at all. You shouldn't base it on the other childs age really. It's YOUR baby, not the childs.
And about the bond thing, age doesn't really decide that. My brother is what others have said the "perfect" age older then me (4 years) and we have NO bond what-so-ever. We only talk if I happen to answer the phone when he calls my parents.
My best friend has a brother 12 years older then her, and their bond is the best between siblings I've ever seen.
2007-01-05 09:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a pretty big gap, but if your youngest child is ten, and you want to have another child, you certainly shouldn't let the age difference stop you. I have two friends, in fact, who are 10 years older than their next younger sibling.
2007-01-05 09:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
decide for it. My aunt and uncle are 12 years aside and are super at the same time. Hes 50 and has a sprint one on the way. i may well be greater embarrassed in case you have been relationship somebody youthful. besides the shown fact that, i don't decide for those marriages the place the guy is like 60 and has grown up young toddlers and grandkids and he marries/dates a 20 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous. you comprehend shes only after funds. those relationships are poor and no love is in contact. You decide for it!!!
2016-10-30 02:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so seems to be common in second marriages my stepdaughter is 12 and we are still considering having kids. I want at least one or 2 and my financee knew that coming into the relationship. If it isn't a second marriage i personally don't see anything wrong with it. Just make sure to spread the love evenly.
2007-01-05 09:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so my sister and I are 18 years apart. Our neighbor just had a baby girl and their son just turned 12. It's better for kids to be AT LEAST 3 to 5 years apart, most of the time, when they are older they have started forming their own identies, have their own group of friends and don't mind sharing mom and dad so much.
2007-01-05 09:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think it is too long between children. My husband and his brother are like 8 years apart in age. They are like 2 onlys. They are NOT close at all. The only thing they have in common are their parents. I think 2-3 year gap in between children is good.
2007-01-05 09:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋