It would be one thing if they had a amicable relationship - they have never spent time together before. She constantly calls him, not the girls, telling him she loves, wants him back etc, she even tells the girsl she wants him back. He lied to me about spending the day with her and then tried to justify it by saying she is there mother - I feel it was inappropiate - they don't have that type of relationship and it was confusing to the children. Am I wrong to feel that way. I should add - she lives 450 miles away, sees the girls 2-3 x a year for a week at time, does not pay child support, is asking us for $ all the time, and does not have custody because she chose her bf over her children. She cheated on my husband numerous times thruout there marriage.
2007-01-05 09:17:52 · 9 answers · asked by K C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
theres a reason that she's his ex
2007-01-05 09:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your husband is a hopeless romantic for his ex wife then he shouldnt be in love with ther still, she cheated on him and surely he knows what a wonderful wife he has in you!
I can understand your situation though I would be scared too, but they do have children together and the mom does need to see them.
I think you dont have anything to worry about though because I say your hubby has lost respect for the woman, she gave up her kids for another man and only sees them a few times a year, I couldnt go one day without seeing my children so who would have respect for a woman like that? Not to mention find it sexy! I really hope things turn out ok but you do have all rights to be scared and Jealous, I would be.
2007-01-05 19:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is just my opinion but I would have a problem with it no matter what. But the fact that he lied makes it even worse. If this continues to happen I am afraid that it will cause serious mariage problems. How would he feel if the situation was reversed? Good luck!
2007-01-05 17:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by bzas1girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that worries me about this is that he lied to you. He has to have this woman in his life, she is their mother and if they only see her a few times a year, it makes sense to want to make the most of the time.
You need to remember, that he divorced her and married YOU. It's not easy, but unless you think he's cheating with her, try to shrug it off. Talk to him about the lying though, that's never good.
2007-01-05 17:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to feel what you feel, and your husband should not have lied to you about it, it's just wrong. plus you should have been invited. she could come over to play a game with all of you or all go out to the zoo or pizza.
2007-01-05 17:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably be worried too as she is not being shy about want ing him back but the thing is DO YOU TRUST HIM. If so get over it, if not then there are bigger things you need to be wiorrying about.
2007-01-05 23:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should ask him why he did that or what he did with her,maybe you have a right to be mad, but always remember she was his wife first, and maybe he has some things to get over so he can be completely devoted to you, but again, if you think he is cheating then don't yell , just ask
2007-01-05 17:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by broken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldnt have lied about it but i think its ok if they spend time together as long as you get to be there to. you really should talk to your husband
2007-01-05 18:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bite your tounge and stay out of it!
you'll only cause problems between yourself and your hubby
2007-01-05 17:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋