My mother and i lived with my grandmother for a year then we moved out because my mom wanted her and i to live with her boyfriend. The fight wasn't because of that it was because just my mother and her mother didnt get along. You see, my grandmother is old and old people COULD get mean but come on it;s ur own mother for goodness sake! I'm only 15 then 14 and 13 i shouldnt be in this situation where my mother doesnt want me to see my grandmother but i believe that it's right and i go see her anyway behind my mothers back because once i DO tell her she gets upset and has a "talk" with me of how evil my grandmother is. I love my family and i think it's the most important thing in life and i dont want to brake it up. Everything is always on me and i'm starting to brake down. WHat should i do?
2007-01-05 09:09:16 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a very unfortunate situation. Your mother should not be allowing any of this to influence you and your relationship with your grandmother. You need to tell her exactly that! You cannot fix whatever the problem is that between them... but they need to put it aside when things regard you. Also, do not let either of their feelings and views of each other change your opinions. You are doing the right thing by staying neutral. Good Luck!!
2007-01-05 09:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by !?!?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you mom that there are so many of us who wished our moms were still alive so we could talk to them.Life is too short to fuss with our families.It is hard to say I'm sorry but it is easier than having regrets later. Everything bad that your mom says to her mom will come back to haunt her after her mom dies. What can be so important that she would break up a mother -daughter relationship for? You shouldn't have to be a refree between them as you are too young for that much responsibilty and you should be allowed to have your own oppion . Go out and enjoy the time you have left with your mom and Grandmother.Try to stay out of it unless they speak to you about the other one and them you can tell the bible says we are put on earth to help and love others. We will be judged on judgement day on how we treated people here on earth. I wish all the luck in the world as I know you are caught right in the middle. May GOD bless you and your mom and your grandmother.You might want to talk to a school counselor or minister about this. I will be praying for your problems to get solved. Good luck.
2007-01-05 09:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by flutterby_bluesky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you believe in the power of prayer to the Father in Jesus name but if you do, I will touch in agreement with you that your mother and grandmother will make peace and at least try to get along...no one should let the sun go down on their wrath or unforgiveness...another thing, whenever you go to a funeral and you see that one relative who acts a complete emotional idiot, you can bet your last money that at the re-pass, they will tearfully admit their was a rift that was not sewn together before the other one died...I have never experienced that and I don't want to because it seems that it is something that messes with your mind for a long time. Just pray for them secretly. That is how you will be blessed "what you do in secret I will reward ye openly"...that goes for the good and the bad.
2007-01-05 09:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by ajhunter3824 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe it or not, it's not "on you". It's not "your fault". All you can do is be supportive and encourage your mother and grandmother to love one another. Be the love in the family that you want them to show each other. You are young and they are adults, so don't let the pressure fall on you, because it has nothing to do with you. It is a matter that they have to deal with, and with time, wounds will heal. Just be as loving as you can. Your beacon of love in the midst of a crisis will show them how strong you are and you will become a role model for their change of heart. Keep living and don't let it get you down.
2007-01-05 09:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately nobody can tell your mother to grow up. Despite your mother and grandmother's differences, you are still your grandmother's grandchild and you should be allowed to see your grandmother unless it is dangerous for you to do so (abuse, etc).
(Yeah, I guess that will be easy for me to say when my kids are older and I have a disagreement with my mother, ha ha!)
You didn't mention your father. Do you have a dad, aunt or older sibling that could intervene on your behalf?
2007-01-05 09:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋