I met a guy recently that interested me as a person ,I don't think I find him especially attractive as a bloke ,but I think he wants more than a friendship .It is so long since I had a partner (over 9yrs !) and as I am 64 I'm not sure if I want more or even if I could !
2007-01-05 09:08:59 · 27 answers · asked by Rosie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
of course you could, if you wanted to!! and it seems to me that he likes you, so if you like him, but have concerns, just go for it, he could make you very happy!! but if you just want to be friends, and he makes it clear he wants more than just explain to him that you are only looking for friendship. im sure he'll understand, but if he doesnt, hes not worth it in the first place!! and yes, i do think men and women can be friends without sex coming into it. my best friend is male, yet we both have partners and i get a lot from him that i couldnt get from a female friend. hes v special to me, and i hope you can have that with your friend too xx
2007-01-05 09:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly possible for men and women to be friends without sex coming into it. After all, no one would think ' I'm only prepared to be your friend because we are the same sex' would they? I wouldn't let the fact you haven't had a partner for some time put you off either. It's a long time since I enjoyed many things but it doesn't put me off them forever. In many ways I enjoy them all the more.
It sounds to me like what you really need is clarification from this man regarding what he wants from you, friendship or romance?
I know people older than 64 who have started new relationships. I think age is almost irrelevant.
I hope you are happy whatever you decide to do.
2007-01-05 09:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Robin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sure as hell could, but I guess only if he gives you that certain tingle. If you think he wants more, chances are he does. Men aren't always the most subtle creatures at hinting, are they? It depends whether you're merely seeking companionship or more. You don't need me to tell you to trust your instincts, but, well, trust your instincts! And you're not too old to have a bit of rumpy pumpy! Or a lot! Ginseng apparently is the way forward ... A trip to Holland and Barrett and you're sorted! And to answer your initial question, a woman can be friends with a man without sex coming into it ... it's just not that often that a man can be friends with a woman without sex coming into it ...
Good luck!
2007-01-05 09:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the only way a man and women can be friends is if the women finds the man sexually repulsive. I believe men only become friends with women they are interested in in hopes that one day they will get some. Why not spend some time with him and then decide if your up for more. Your 64, not dead.
2007-01-05 09:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean" even if you could"? Of course you could!
Nowadays nothing is impossibly, especially something like that.
You'd take yourself to the doctor as a confident lady and ask for help.
64, you're young thing.x
It's like people have said before, if one of the friends is totally unattractive, gay, stupid, sick; a family member, then, yes, most probably you could be friends with nothing likely to ever happen.
Otherwise, everything is possible, suffice the right atmosphere, frame of mind, situation etc... and everything is possible.
Enjoy your life.
It's a new year, and you're as entitled to happyness as everyone else.xxx
2007-01-05 09:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you have to make sure all you want from him is friendship and if so "of course you can" you just have to let him know that this is all it will be. If he is truly friend worthy he will abide by your wishes. the answer to this question i don't really think that this is all you want and you should leave him alone if you are not ready to handle a male female relationship of only friendship. I have many guy friends and that is all we are and they never try to cross that line.
2007-01-05 09:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by crlynn2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no rason why you cant be freinds or lovers there is no age to say i cant fall in love you no yourself as a person and when you fall in love so make the most of your life your not old your as young as you feel so make the most of your life but if you dont have real feelngs for this man there is no reason why you cant be freinds and im sure he will be happy with this if he values you as a person .
2007-01-05 21:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of friends that are men - and we've never actually done anything sexual (or kissed) . . . closest we ever got was a hug after not seeing each other for a while. So, yeah it can be done if both of you are in agreement about that being all there is to it.
2007-01-05 09:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can just be friends... at any age. But you have to make things clear right away before he starts thinking he may have a chance for something more.
2007-01-05 09:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple women think with their head and their hearts.....Men think with the short vocabulary of sex.....
So yes you can be his friend but men....once they see you one way thats it.....at 64 you should already know the answer to this i dont mean it in a rude way...just i think you know the answer i think your just scared after 9years
womenly advise you only live once try to enjoy yourself and be lucky that you have someone interested in you....and after 9years you deserve....have fun go out chill out and if there is still nothing there tell him you just want friendship if he dont call you back his lose your gain.....
2007-01-05 09:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by MissTee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋